Immunization Awareness Month

August is Immunization Awareness Month. I know the vaccine topic is a touchy one that causes people to argue and I don’t want that. I am more than happy to have an open conversation and hear your thoughts and opinions on the matter, but if you are going to be disrespectful to me or any other commenters I will delete your comments. It’s not necessary. You can and should be respectful adults who can disagree without belittling each other.

I know that it’s not quite August yet, but I am having to submit vaccination records for Cash to start school in a few weeks and I know there are a bunch of other parents who have done similar things or are in the process of doing similar things. Here in California, the law is as follows: “Personal belief exemptions will no longer be permitted beginning January 1, 2016. Personal belief exemptions submitted before January 1, 2016, are valid until the child enters kindergarten (including transitional kindergarten) or 7th grade. Valid medical exemptions from a licensed physician are not affected and will continue to be accepted.” (Contra Costa Health Services) If you are from another state I would like to hear what your state requires and does not require.

Anyway, I wrote a research paper on whether or not vaccinating children should be required by law. I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject! Here is my paper:

What exactly are vaccines? What do they do and how do they work? How important are they really? In the Encyclopedia Britannica, the definition of a vaccine is “a suspension of weakened, killed or fragmented microorganisms or toxins or of antibodies or lymphocytes that are administered primarily to prevent disease.” The first vaccine was introduced by a British physician, Edward Jenner, in 1796 to protect people from smallpox. Prior to this, Asian physicians were giving children dried crusts off the sores of people suffering from smallpox. The problem with this method was, some of the children would develop the disease and some would develop immunity. In 1881 Louis Pasteur could immunize sheep against anthrax and four years later he had a vaccine for rabies. Since then there has been a worldwide want and need for vaccines against deadly diseases. However, whether to vaccinate our children has become a hot button issue. There are myths, fears, facts, and statistics surrounding the issue; and all are fueled by social media. Laws requiring immunization create a safer environment for everyone, due to herd immunity, the potential risks of immunizations are minimal, and the economic impact of non-immunization is significant.

In the United States, a lot of diseases were very common up until the middle of last century and killed thousands of people every year. Almost everyone in the U.S. got measles and hundreds died each year, however now “most doctors have never seen a case of measles.” (CDC) Before the diphtheria vaccine was created in 1921, more than 15,000 people died in the U.S. Now that there is a vaccine only one case has been reported to CDC since 2004. (CDC) There many diseases that can be avoided via vaccination now. However, if people do not vaccinate their children or themselves they can start spreading these diseases again to others who are not vaccinated. If one or two people contract a disease and live in a community with low vaccination rates there will be an outbreak. Therefore, we need herd immunity.

Per the CDC website herd immunity or community immunity, is when a large portion of a population is immune to an infection or disease, either through vaccination or prior illness, which makes the spread of the disease highly unlikely. Through herd immunity individuals who are not vaccinated, like newborns or those with chronic illnesses, are given protection “because the disease has little opportunity to spread within the community.” (CDC) A great example of herd immunity happened in Japan in the 1970’s. There were 393 cases of whooping cough in 1974 with 80% of the country’s children being vaccinated and no related deaths. Then in 1979 the number of children getting vaccinated dropped to 10%, 13,000 cases were reported, and 41 people died. After that year vaccination numbers went up and the disease numbers dropped again. (Britannica Academic) These vaccines not only protect us and our children but they also protect people who may not be able to get vaccinated due to medical reasons or might be susceptible for other reasons. Ask yourself, what would happen if we stopped getting vaccinations? This situation in Japan shows us we could very well find ourselves fighting epidemics that we had previously thought were defeated.

There are plenty of arguments that vaccines are not safe, however, most of these arguments are founded on myths and false statements or ideas. There is a myth that vaccines do not work, but there are so many scientific facts and examples which prove they do work. Not only do they work, they work very well. A prime example of vaccines working is smallpox. Because of the smallpox vaccine, it has been eradicated from the earth. Another myth people hear is that infants are too young to get vaccinated, yet children who get these vaccines are being protected from diseases like pertussis and Hib meningitis. There are roughly 8,000 cases of pertussis every year, resulting in five to ten deaths each year in the United States and if infants stopped getting vaccinated those numbers would skyrocket. (CDC) “Vaccines given in the first two years of life are literally a raindrop in the ocean of what infants’ immune systems successfully encounter in their environment every day.” (Should Vaccines Be Mandatory) Probably the biggest myth that is causing parents to fight vaccinations is the myth that vaccines cause autism. This myth has been projected and exaggerated by the media. There have been two studies that claim the vaccine for measles-mumps-rubella (MMR) causes autism. Both of those studies were done by Dr. Wakefield and his coworkers, yet they are very flawed. There have been four different studies, by four different groups of people, debunking this myth. (Vaccines)

Vaccines contain antigens (“a toxin or other foreign substance that induces an immune response in the body, especially the production of antibodies” (CDC)) and small amounts of other ingredients. These other ingredients are another reason why parents are not wanting to vaccinate. Yet, CDC states there is such a small amount of these toxins that they are not harmful to adults or children. Vaccines are as safe as they can possibly be, according to CDC. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) monitors the vaccines given in the United States by studying the vaccine itself as well as the sites where the vaccines are made. The FDA also monitors the side effects of each vaccine. If they feel there is a common link between a certain vaccine and side effect they weigh the benefits and the risks to decide if there needs to be a change in the vaccine itself, the schedule, or the amount of the vaccine given at a particular time. (CDC)

Vaccines can cause side effects, like anything foreign we put into our bodies, however, they are usually very mild. There may be redness and swelling at the injection site, a slight fever, as well as more serious side effects such as “vomiting, high fever, seizure, brain damage, or death.” (Britannica Academic) However, these occur in less than one in a million people. It is extremely rare for anyone to have severe allergic reactions to vaccines, but doctors are trained to deal with those situations should they occur. Even though you or your child may have one of the mild side effects after getting a vaccination, it is much better than the alternative. If we stop getting vaccinated, diseases we once thought eliminated will spread across our country like wildfire. A prime example of what happens when we don’t vaccinate our children happened in the United States in the late 1980s and early 1990s. “Immunization rates against measles dropped” (Should Vaccinations be Mandatory) causing 11,000 hospitalizations and more than a hundred deaths. Now that the rates of vaccinated children have increased again and the number of cases has dropped to about a hundred per year with no deaths in the United States. (Should Vaccinations be Mandatory) The risks of not getting vaccinated clearly outweigh the minor risks of getting vaccinated.

Finally, the economic impact of non-immunization deserves considerable consideration when weighing whether to require immunization. Most anyone with health insurance has their children’s vaccinations completely covered, they are considered preventative care and they do not pay anything out of pocket. If you do not have insurance and do have to pay out of pocket the average vaccine costs $29.07 at a private clinic and $8.15 at a public clinic. (CDC) However, if you choose not to vaccinate your children and they get sick, you must pay your co-pay and possibly more doctors bills. On top of doctors’ bills, you may have to take time off work; causing you to lose out on wages for that day(s). CDC did a study on the “direct costs for outbreak control, and outpatient and inpatient visits…. average duration of hospital stay, and hospitalization costs”. They did the study on diphtheria, tetanus, pertussis, Hib, poliomyelitis, measles, mumps, rubella, congenital rubella syndrome, hepatitis B, varicella, pneumococcal diseases, and rotavirus. Looking at just diphtheria there is a 100% chance of hospitalization with an average of 6.1 days spent in the hospital. The average cost per hospital visit is $16,982. On top of that hospital stay there is outpatient visits that cost on average $100 per visit. Looking at pertussis (whooping cough) there is a 0.65-30% chance of hospitalization with 5.5-15 days spent in the hospital. The average hospital stay would cost between $10,765-22,410. Then, of course, you would have your outpatient visits ranging from $100-173 per visit. (CDC) These numbers are not including the time you must take off work, or the medication you might have to buy.

The medical journal Bulletin of the World Health Organization did a study focusing on the cost-effectiveness of vaccinating in five emerging economies. They studied Brazil, the Russian Federation, India, China, and South Africa (BRICS). The countries have a wide range of economic standing, ranging from “lower-middle-income (India), upper-middle-income (Brazil, China, and South Africa), and high-income (Russian Federation).” Their study includes “the two most populous countries in the world – China and India.” All together BRICS have a total population of roughly 239 million children under the age of five. Through their study, they have found that introducing vaccines to the children in these countries has greatly benefited the economies. They proved that it is beneficial to the economy and the communities to vaccinate children overpaying for high medical treatment and having lost wages from taking care of the children when they become ill.

With myths being debunked, the potential cost of not vaccinating added up, the minor risks involved, and the fact that we are protecting those who are unable to get vaccinated, it is a clear choice as to what we should do in our communities. Requiring children get vaccinated has a positive impact on so many different aspects of our lives. With laws requiring vaccination, we are protecting those who can’t get vaccinated due to chronic illness or allergies and newborns. And with laws requiring vaccination, we are saving money. There has been enough research to show vaccines are safe and should be mandatory.

 

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Teen Pregnancy

May is National Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month. I know Tyson and I have a lot of time until we need to worry about these types of things, but I think it’s a good parenting move to have these big discussions with your spouse before you reach that point in life. Prepare yourself. Get on the same page. Make sure you know how you want to deal with these types of issues when they arise.

I am not entirely sure what the right way to deal with sex and pregnancy is. My husband and I grew up in two different homes when it came to that sort of thing. Maybe the best route would be to meet somewhere in the middle. Who knows. Sometimes I wish there were legit parenting books. I say legit because there are ungodly amounts of parenting books, but they range from crazy anti-vaxxers to helicopter moms to exclusively breastfed to formula fed, etc. I think you get the point. Everyone has their own opinion on how to parent children and which is the right method. I wish there was one right way to parent that leads to good adults.

Fuck. Parenting is hard.

How do you talk to your kids about sex? What are your tried and true methods?

Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month

The month of April is Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month (SAAM).

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This year, more than ever, we need to raise awareness for sexual assault victims and survivors. We have a president who does not hold women in high regard, but this isn’t just about women. It’s about sexual assault on any man, woman, and/or child. He doesn’t seem to have much respect for anyone unless you are on “his side” and even then it’s skeptical.

I do find it funny that the POTUS declared April the month of sexual assault awareness and prevention when it’s the National Coalition Against Sexual Assault (NCASA) picked a week in April in the 1980s. It was nationally recognized as SAAM in 2001. Since 2001 the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) has promoted national unity for SAAM activities, encouraged interaction and feedback from the nation, and built momentum to prevent sexual violence.

The campaign this year is “Engaging New Voices.” Which means involving coaches, faith leaders, parents, Greek Life, and bystanders with helping prevent sexual assault. The NSVRC hopes to help these voices begin to talk about preventing sexual assault and educate them on how to help.

If you want to learn more about Sexual Assault Awareness Month, campaign planning, get merch, or really anything else check this web page.

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Tricky Person

I will be the first to admit I watch way too many crime tv shows and crime movies. I already have anxiety and these shows usually add to my anxiety over my children and their safety. I can watch those dumb commericals about tortured animals all day and not shed a tear, but if I happen to see a mother who has lost her child or a child who has been hurt you can bet your ass I’m crying.

I always have those heart stopping moment when I lose sight of one of them, usually Cash, for a minute in any public area. It usually happens because he’s gone inside a tunnel at the play ground, behind the slide, or behind the car, just right out of sight in a matter of seconds. Thank god we have never been in a bad situation or a potentially harmful situation but it’s still the worst feeling in the world.

I have been thinking lately about how to approach the subject of “stranger danger” and safety with my boys. I think Cash is getting old enough to understand that not everyone is your ‘friend’ and some people can be mean or potentially dangerous. I’ve also talked to Tyson about when we should teach Cash about 9-1-1 but that is a whole other post. You always read those stories about children who were abducted by someone they knew, thought was friendly, or had a close call. I want to try and avoid any sort of situation like that if at all possible, as does every parent.

I came across blog post talking about one mother’s close encounter with a possible bad situation. Long story short she had an ovarian cyst ruptur and rushed her and her 4 children to the ER. She left her two older boys (10 & 8) out front to wait for their neighbor to come pick them up and take them to school. She assumed this would be a 5 minute wait but the neighbor was not actually at home and it actually took closer to 40 minutes. The two boys were approached by strangers who kept asking for help. They wanted the boys to go into the men’s restroom and convince their friend it was safe to come out and be helped by the doctors. The boys politely refused but the strangers kept insisting and told the two young children they could potentially save a man’s life.

That’s pretty compelling stuff to be telling a child. Honestly, I would probably fall for it as a 27 year old adult.

Anyway, the boys kept declining and the strangers eventually gave up. A man came out of the restroom, got into the car with the other strangers, and drove off.

How terrifying is that?!?!

The boys knew this person was a ‘tricky person’ because “Adults don’t ask kids for help.” She did not teach her children about “stranger danger” because there are times when a child does need to ask for help from a stranger and it’s perfectly okay and safe to do so.

She goes on to talk about how to teach your children about the “tricky people” rule. Which is “If a safe adult needs help, they’ll ask another adult. Not a kid.” She got this tip from Pattie Fitzgerald, the creater of Safely Ever After.

I am going to go through that webpage and write another post with all the important tips and tricks Pattie Fitzgerald talks about. I will try and condense the information for you and make it a “quick” read.

I wanted to share this story with you today in hopes that you will talk to your children and spouse about safety and “tricky people.”

 

***Note, Jodie’s blog, Time Well Spent is great and you should definitely go check it out!***

Raising Kids

Now let me begin this blog post with the fact that I have little experience with teenagers. My experience strictly begins and ends with myself, my friends, and my younger brother. I am in no way an expert, just interested.

With that being said, my mom is in a relationship with a sweet man who has 5 children. 2 are grown adults with children of their own and 3 are still living at home. They range from the ages of 14 to 20. We have talked recently about the struggles she going through raising 3 kids who aren’t hers. Raising 3 teenaged children specifically and the struggles that come with it.Which prompted me to do some research on what are the positive or proven parenting styles for teenaged kids.

My mind keeps going back to the issue of the blended family. I can imagine that raising children gives you years and years of sweet memories, funny moments, lots of love, and cute photos to draw on when you are struggling with your teenaged child. Basically, you are storing up a ton of great memories and love for when they are difficult teenagers. However, if you come into the situation of a blended family with teenaged children you don’t have any of that. You have to take this frustrating, difficult, annoying teen as they are with no past love or fun memories.

But let’s be honest, that sounds terrible. I don’t really like children to begin with so taking on teenage children sounds horrifying. Absolutely terrible. This is where my husband will shine. He used to coach high school basketball and absolutely loved it. He still has great relationships with these boys, and I admire that about him. I hope that our own children get so lucky with great coaches that truly care and love our children like Tyson loves those boys. (Who, I have to add, are only a few years younger than me. ahaha)

Now back to the subject of teenage kids, I will take all the advice I can get to prepare myself for this stage of our lives. Granted I may be a little ahead of myself seeing as how our kids aren’t even school aged yet, but I will still willingly take any and all advice from more experienced parents. 🙂

I went deep into the internet for this one! Mamma, you should be thanking me. 🙂

The first and most important tip I found for parenting or step parenting was to be a positive role model. If you don’t want your kids to be assholes then don’t be an asshole. Simple right? (Yeah, not so much) My mom used to tell me, “Do as I say, not as I do.” and it never worked. I grew up acting so much like my mom it was insane; I probably drove my dad crazy with my attitude, but he won’t tell me to protect my feelings. I had her habits, mannerisms, attitude, and quirks. I had to take a look at my life and how I wanted to raise my own children to start changing my behavior. I’m not saying it’s completely gone because my husband has told me a few times how much I am like my mother and I have caught myself cleaning like crazy thinking, “hmm… this is something mom would do.”

The pointer that spoke to my teenage self, was to not be nitpicky. What I mean by this to choose your battles wisely. If they want to get a permanent tattoo or they want to drop out of school, fucking stop them. Right now! Lock them in their room if you have to! If they want to go to Tennesse, Florida, etc (or BYU) over UGA, stop them immediately! Their brother-in-law will tease them incessantly. You need to keep their priorities straight. Those are life changing decisions. On the flip side, if their room is a constant mess let it go. There’s no reason to constantly argue with them and cause problems at home when you could simply shut their door. If they want to pierce their nose, so what! They can take it out when they are older with no repercussions. I think you get my gist.

Another tip, that would honestly be useful for any aged child, is to decide the rules and discipline in advance, especially if you are in a two-parent (or more) situation. Discuss what you want the rules to be as your children grow and discuss the discipline beforehand so you can be on the same page when the time comes. Coming in as a united front is so important! I’m sure this is a struggle for any parent, co-parenting situation, or step-parent situation. It’s hard to raise kids and it’s even harder as you start adding different personalities and opinions.

Something I found interesting, but could completely agree with, was the fact that being a step parent meant you might have the feeling that your children/child could do no wrong and your step children/child could do no right. I have dealt with this with this issue personally and it’s a bitch. It is a difficult issue to overcome. Ultimately you need to realize every child is different and faces different challenges. As hard as it may be, don’t compare your children to your stepchildren. Or even your own children to each other; each person faces their own obstacles.

The same goes for forgiveness. You can easily forgive your children/child for being incredibly difficult and at the same time hold it against your stepchildren/child. Forgive your step children, they are just kids after all. Try and remember they are only 13, or 14, or whatever age but honestly, they are just kids. What the hell were you doing at that age? I’m sure you were pissing your parents off just like these kids are doing. Give them a break. – Yes, I know I say this now and I will be losing my mind in 10 years. Take it all with a grain of salt. 🙂

This is something that needs to be taught at every parenting class, hospital room, or where ever parents will listen to someone; actions have consequences. There are so many children that don’t face any real consequences for their bad behavior and it drives me nuts! I can’t handle it. Even worse is my son will come home acting like a monster because he picks up on these things. Tyson and I are pretty strict I think, so we come down on our boys hard, maybe too hard from time to time. But, they are well-behaved kids, everyone tells us so. I think a big reason they are so well behaved is because they know if they do something wrong there are consequences and they are not going to like them. Now I’m not saying my kids are perfect because they most definitely are not! They mess up, they make me angry, they push and take toys from each other and other kids, they yell, they scream, and they throw tantrums just like any other kids their age. But I can say with confidence that if I say “CHRISTOPHER CASH” or “DAVID TATE” in my “mom” voice they turn around and listen to what I have to say because they don’t want to deal with whatever will happen if they don’t.

I loved the idea of empowering your children. Empower them to express themselves in your family. Ever since I got pregnant I have always wanted to be the kind of mother my kids felt comfortable coming to with their problems. I want them to know I have their back and they are in a safe place when it comes to me and their dad. Even if they have something negative to tell us or think they are going to be in trouble, I want them to come to us. I want them to come to us when they think we aren’t doing our best. I want them to come to us when they are having problems at school or with friends. I know that’s asking a lot, but I think it can be done. Let your kids know they can trust you.

This tip is more important when you are dealing with blended families, but should be applied in all families; involve the other parent. If you are in a blended family situation then you should involve both parents and any step parents that are involved. All of you should go to school functions, parent-teacher conferences, therapist appointments, etc.  You should all be on the same page when it comes to disciple, curfew, rewards, and expectations. If you guys can work together you are showing your children a united front that they can lean on and depend on. It’s also showing them if they get in trouble at Parent A’s house they can’t run to Parent B’s house and get away from it. I know this is an issue for any blended family. My brother and I both did it. Any friends of mine that had divorced parents did it. Even kids whose parents are together, do it; they will try to play the two of you against each other. Stay strong!

I say it all the time but, parenting is hard work. I commend anyone that can do it and stay sane, especially when you add in pressures like divorce and blended families. I know I am nowhere near close to having ‘serious’ problems with my kids, seeing as how they are both so young. I also know I am not in a blended family situation, though we did have some growing pains of our own having Tyson come into the family after Cash had turned 1. All I can really say with confidence is try your hardest to raise good kids, the world will thank you.

And stay strong mamas and daddies!

 

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I had been putting off writing this post for about a month and a half.

National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.

Feb 26-March 4

I had been dreading writing this post because, obviously BBB is an eating disorder recovery blog, so I feel kinda…obligated…to address the topic, but honestly, I’m kinda luke warm on the whole “awareness” thing.

It just seems a little…glorifying if you ask me. And I have a problem with that. Don’t throw around photos of healthy-yet-slightly-thin girls in stock photos pretending to be sad, or even worse, smiling and holding a piece of pizza, and gloat that you’re raising “awareness” or fighting the stigma. The theme: “It’s time to talk about it…” that’s borderline insulting.

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Things Non-Parents Don’t Understand

We only have one couple friend that has kids so the rest of our friends just don’t understand the struggle that comes with having children. Especially young children. They are usually pretty good, but there are times that I just want to smack them for their lack of common sense and/or empathy.

So, to all you childless people out there let me give you some insight into a few things;

  1. It’s really hard for us to go out. This is hard for a few different reasons. First off you have to find a babysitter. Then if you don’t have family around that means you have to pay for a babysitter, which is usually $20 an hour or more. So a night out could cost well over $130 and that’s not including dinner, drinks, or whatever else you’re doing. When we can go out, don’t sit there on your phone the entire time. We are paying good money to come out with you!
  2. Hangovers really, really suck when you have kids. This goes along with us going out. Childless friends can stay in bed until noon, get up, go get brunch, go home take a nap, etc. Not us; oh no. In my house, we are up no later than 7 with two very rambunctious and loud boys. Even if one of use sleeps in, the other one still has to get up. And it just doesn’t stop in the morning, it’s all day. We have to deal with demanding kids while we nurse a hangover all day!
  3. It’s not easy to just go run some errands. This is really specific to having younger kids. Getting two kids in and out of car seats, in and out of shopping carts, etc is a pain in the ass. It takes me twice as long to go grab some medicine from CVS with one or both my boys. They whine, they run off, they ask for things, and they can not sit still. So if you ask me to stop and grab something real quick when you know I have my kids, go fuck yourself.
  4. We can’t usually just do last minute things. We usually need to plan things in advance. We can’t just decide an hour before that we want to go do something. We need to figure out sitters, schedules, snacks, packing, and the list goes on. Life is not simple anymore. But we like it better this way.
  5. We don’t want your advice. You are not a parent. You do not understand the struggles of parenthood so please, just shut up. I absolutely hate hearing “My kids will never act like that.” Or “Have you tried XYZ with Cash?” Or “Why don’t you do this?” Or “I would smack their butts if my child acted such and such a way.” I honestly just want to tell them “Just you wait…” I also dislike hearing my childless friends judge other parents, even if I don’t know them. Again, you do not have children so you can’t possibly understand the full situation. Stop judging. Parenting is hard!
  6. It’s very frustrating when you flake on us. We took a lot of time planning being able to go out with you (with or without kids) and it’s incredibly rude for you to bail on us. And if we are bringing the kids they are most likely really excited to see you too and now you’ve let them down. Which in my house means I have to hear Cash complain about it for several days.
  7. Being a stay at home mom is hard.You may think we just sit at home all day watching TV and eating bon bons but let me tell you, it’s nothing like that. We are constantly cleaning up, feeding, entertaining children, and craving adult conversation. On the flip side of that, being a working mom is just as hard. Daycare is expensive, we miss our kids when we are at work, and we still have to do all of those household chores when we get him. Being a mom is a 24/7 job. Do not ever criticize either style of motherhood. And don’t ever assume our life is easier one way or the other. Again, parenting is hard work!
  8. Schedules. Schedules are so important to our children! They are so important to us. Nap time schedules, feeding schedules, bedtime schedules, any kind of schedule helps our lives run smoothly. I know my children get a little crazy when we don’t follow our normal schedule or our normal routine gets changed. So when you want to do something in the middle of the day and want the kids to nap on the go or skip their nap, you are asking for trouble.
  9. We really don’t want to hear all about your drunk weekends, over and over again. We get it, you like to party. That’s fine and all, but we have moved on from that time in our lives and have no interest in hearing you brag about how much you drank, that time you passed out, etc. If it’s a rare occurrence then hell yes, tell us all about it! We would love to hear about your random drunken make out with the hot guy you just met. Or the other night when you got so drunk for your birthday you fell over. But we don’t want to hear about your wild weekends every single time we talk. Thanks, but no thanks.