“Back To School” Time

We have some exciting news in the Marsh household! I checked my email this morning and had an email from the school Cash will be attending next month. It was his Pre-K Class Supplies List!

I know this is such a nerdy mom move but I got so excited! I always loved going shopping for school supplies while I was in elementary and junior high and I got equally as excited just seeing Cash’s list of school supplies.

I am really looking forward to taking him to his first day of school and taking those cheesy pictures. Please tell me I’m not alone in this. Any other parents out there who are getting or got really excited to send your kids to school for the first time or for the twelfth time? 🙂

Anyway, here’s our shopping list (We also need to get him a backpack and new lunch box as well) –

Pre-K Class Supplies List

1 Coloring Book

1 Box of 24 Crayons

1 Watercolor paint set with brush

2 Jumbo glue sticks

2 Bottles of Elmer’s glue

1 Pack of colored cardstock

1 Two-inch, white, clear pocket binder

1 Pack of clear sheet protectors

1 Family size box of tissues

1 Box of Crayola washable markers

He Has What?!?!

Hand Foot and Mouth.

That’s right ladies and gentlemen, it has hit our household. I didn’t think it would ever happen. We had two instances where our boys were playing with kids who a day or two later had the infamous bumps and came out unscathed.

Not this time. Our little Tater Tot has hand foot and mouth disease. It sucks! I had actually never heard of this until we started going to Renaissance Club Sport and putting the kids into Kids World. He had a fever on Friday night and we noticed the bumps on Sunday so I am hoping we are on the downhill now that it’s Tuesday. Poor little guy is having a hard time sleeping and he’s just generally a cranky kid. If you’ve never heard of it, you should look it up. It’s not a fun thing to have and there’s nothing you can do for them. You can give them Tylenol and cold foods/liquids to help with the pain but that’s about it. I did learn last night that Tate likes his feet being rubbed; I don’t know if it helps with the pain or if they are itchy but I rubbed his poor little feet for the better part of last night.

I obviously can’t take him to Kids World because it is so contagious. Which means I need to get creative on when and how to do homework. I did decide to drop my astronomy class so I have roughly 3 hours in the morning when Janai is at the house before my psych class. Which means I come to school at 7 and do homework before going to class, go home, and try and entertain the boys at home for 7 hours. 😦 It’s only Tuesday, I have a test in psych, and I’m over the week. ahaha I am really enjoying my psych class though. It’s mostly open class discussions or small group discussions about things I find really interesting.

I am really enjoying my psych class though. It’s mostly open class discussions or small group discussions about things I find really interesting. Yesterday we talked about equality and females being second class citizens, which I obviously found really interesting. The only thing I would change about the class is the people in it. There are roughly 30 people in the class and the same 7-10 people contribute to our discussions every day. I would love to hear what everyone else thinks on these topics. Today is only our 6th class so hopefully, as this week comes to a close more people will open up and contribute.

On the plus side, next week is the 4th of July! Which is (usually) my favorite holiday. The Bay Area has got me a little jaded when it comes to the 4th. Since moving here I have not had a great 4th of July. I want that small town feel; fireworks, community, friends, fun, warm weather, and country music. I tried getting the country music in this weekend but it didn’t really work out. I’m hoping we can at least see fireworks this year. It would make me one happy girl! If not, I expect all of you to post videos on FB or here so I can watch live vicariously through you, and be jealous! 🙂

Traveling to Utah and a Quick Update

Well, we made it.

The boys and I took a 5:25 AM flight out of Oakland to come to good ol’ Ogden Utah. As many of you know we are in the process of moving as well. So all last week I was entertaining my parents, packing, and trying to plan our Utah trip. Needless to day it was a stressful week.

Sunday night I was up packing and cleaning and we had to leave the house by 3:30 to get to the airport and board our plane on time. Some of you may be asking why I am putting some much effort into packing before we leave. The reason for this is because I will be gone and Tyson is moving our home alone. I wanted to have as much of the apartment packed and cleaned so he would have less to do. However, I don’t feel like I did a good enough job. I guess we will see on Wednesday when he moves and on Saturday when we come home.

And I can not wait to come home. We are moving to Walnut Creek, right across the street from the gym, right across the street from BART, closer to my school, closer to Cash’s preschool, and just closer to where our lives are happening. Aside from location, the apartments are so much nicer; we will even have a washer and a dryer in our apartment! YAY!!!

I got my final grades and I have 3 A’s and 1 B. I’m disappointed in myself for not getting an A in that literature class, but there’s not a whole lot I can do about it now. The situation with my Drugs and Society final grade was a hot mess but it’s all figured out now and I have the A that I deserve.

We have had a busy week in Utah and I am wiped out! On Monday we got into town at around 8 AM, dropped our bags off at my dad’s and went to the dinosaur park. Cash absolutely loved it! He kept naming all the different kinds of dinosaurs and told us what they ate. It was so fun watching him teach all of us the different dinosaurs.

On Tuesday we went to the Aquarium in Draper. Both the boys loved it! Tate absolutely loved watching all the big fish swim by him. After we came back from the aquarium my mom and her fiance, Todd, played with the boys. They are tried to teach Cash how to hit a baseball and played ball with Tate, of course. ‘Ball is life’ for that cute little boy. ❤

Wednesday was a pretty uneventful morning. We had a BBQ and cake and ice cream at my mom’s that evening for Cash’s birthday. My mom’s step kids and their kids came over and Cash had so much fun playing in the water with them and making new friends.

Thursday was interesting. We had a very low-key day at my dad’s. Cash helped Gramma plant flowers and dig up weeds. The boys played outside, took naps, and just had an all-around fun day at home. I went out Thursday night with my Auntie Karen and Uncle Tony. Unfortunately, I ended up having a run-in with Cash’s biological dad and his new girlfriend. The outcome of that was honestly the last thing I expected, but it’s over and done with now. Thank God. However, because of said incidentI, left my phone at the bar and I still don’t have it because they don’t open until 5 PM tonight so I’m just doing the waiting game until they open.

Earlier today we did pictures of the boys down in Ogden; I can’t wait to see how they came out. Tate had a hard time and was very cranky but Cash did great! Tonight we are doing cake and ice cream at my dad’s house for Cash’s birthday and he’s so excited. He got to make the ice cream with gramma and he can’t wait to try it.

As for me, I am ready to go home. Tomorrow can not come soon enough for me.

I am sorry that I have been so MIA lately. I will keep up on the blog better from now on!

Finals Week is Officially Over!

I’m sorry I’ve been so MIA this week. This was finals week and Tyson has been gone for work since Sunday afternoon. Which means I have been studying, stressing, and taking tests the past couple of days on my own. The great news is it’s all over! Pray for me that I get all A’s again this semester. I am stressing out about it and want nothing more than to continue my 4.0. And the worst part is I won’t know until next week sometime.

Tyson is always telling me how if I did my best that’s all I can do and I should be proud of what I’ve done…. That sounds great and all but I really do want to get A’s. I feel like I’ve worked my butt off and want to make sure I can get into Berkley next fall. A girl can dream, right?

Anyway, Tyson doesn’t get home until late Wednesday night, has to work on Thursday and then on Friday we are going to Bottle Rock to see Macklemore and Ryan Lewis. I am so damn excited! My dad and Nikki will be here on Saturday and are staying for a whole week!

It’s going to be so nice to get a small break from the kids while they are here. And I mean that in the most sincere way possible. I do love my kids, but it’s hard not having any family here to give us a small break every now and then. We are going to be spending time at the pool, drinking, hanging out with friends, and tyson and I are actually going to have our first night away from both the boys.

We are going to be spending time at the pool, drinking, hanging out with friends, and packing up our house to get ready to move. To top it all off Tyson and I are actually going to have our first night away from both the boys. Which I am so extremely excited for! I booked us a hotel room in the city, we are going to dinner, and we are just going to enjoy being adults with no children. I have every intention of sleeping in, undisturbed and I can not wait! That’s how you know I’m a mom, I am looking forward to sleep on a romantic night away with my husband. Ahahahaha

Sharing is Caring

Anyone on facebook that has a handful of mom friends has most likely seen the post about children not being required to share their toys. The gist of the post is that this mother does not require her child to share, her child can tell other children “No.”

I have always been against this and make Cash share whenever we are with other people and we make him share with his brother. Tyson’s motto is “We share with everyone.” But I’m starting to think maybe we are the ones getting it wrong.

The reason I feel this way is because of an incident that happened at the pool earlier this afternoon. Cash had brought toys for him and Tate to play with and did a great job sharing with all the kids at the pool. 3 new kids showed up and it all went downhill. The older boy was maybe 6 or 7 and the two girls were roughly Cash’s age, maybe a little younger.

The older boy took all of Cash’s toys and wouldn’t let Cash play with them. Keep in mind Cash brought toys to the pool today to split between him and Tate. Cash kept asking if the older boy would share his own toys but the older boy kept responding with “But you play with these all the time” or “Why are you following me?” Cash kept coming up to me crying because the boy wouldn’t share and was being ‘naughty.’

I asked the boy twice to share with Cash and let him know that some of those toys were brand new and some of them were for his little brother. He never listened. So I got in the pool and took them away from this older boy.

Now you may think I was being a bitch but Cash literally had nothing to play with because Tate had 2 toys and this older boy had the rest. Mind you, his parents and grandma were sitting right there while all of this was happening but they were too busy chit chatting in Spanish to pay attention to what was going on.

This specific situation has made me want to rethink making Cash share his toys. I think there should be a happy medium. He should share with his brother and friends when he brings things to their house, but if we are going to the pool or the park and he packs toys for him and his brother he shouldn’t have to share if he doesn’t want to.

I like the analogy the post makes about eating sandwiches. She says “If I, an adult walked into a park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.”

I will say I am not a huge fan of some of her comments in this post though. She does say “The next time your snowflake runs to you, upset that another child isn’t sharing, please remember that we don’t live in a world where it’s conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so……”

I hope she is coming from a good place when she says this but I am technically one of those “snowflakes” and I don’t expect shit from anyone. I know I have to work for what I want. My husband works for what he wants. My kids will eventually have to work for what they want.

I better stop before I go off on some random tangent about “snowflakes” and politics.

Anyway, moral of the story is, I wish there was a happy medium for sharing and not sharing when it came to our children. Today was clearly a point when Cash shouldn’t have to share with this boy.

Here is the original post if you want to read it in its entirety.

My Tribe

Everyone says it takes a village to raise a child and I’m sure that’s true, but we don’t have that village. We don’t have any close family here in the Bay Area and have only recently started making friends with kids.

However, I will say the friends we have made so far have been such a blessing for my mental state. They don’t even have to help with the kids, just the fact that I can have adult conversations with them is a huge help!

This past weekend Lauren and Chris came out to the gym for drinks and bocce and then came back to the house for more drinks and games. These two have always been so great with our kids; Cash instantly climbed up on the couch and snuggled up with Lauren. ❤ Tyson asked for snuggles and he wanted to snuggle Chris instead because “he hasn’t had any snuggles yet.” Lauren read Cash’s bedtime story (The Book With No Pictures), which was so cute! They were both cracking up! It’s such a great feeling to know other people care about your kids and watching your kids enjoy themselves and care about others outside of your family.

I can’t leave Jess out. She was my first friend I made here in CA by myself and I absolutely adore her. She has been there for me through some pretty hard times and never judged. She’s always honest with me, even when it’s hard to hear. She is so good to my boys and I honestly can’t thank her enough. As I’m writing about her I keep thinking of different times when she has been there for myself or my boys. She drove us to Urgent Care and then the ER when Cash hurt his finger and stayed with us until Tyson got there. She is always there when I need someone to lean on. She has been more than happy to listen to me bitch about the kids. She really is just a great friend. My school schedule has made it hard to get together the past few months and I miss her terribly! Jess, I can’t wait until the boys are feeling better and we can get together!

Tyson and I have started making some great friends at our gym who also have kids really close in age to our boys, which is great! We make plans and involve the kids without worry of them being annoyed. We also make plans without the kids but know it needs to be planned in advance or one of the spouses has to be home with the kids. It’s a nice change to have so many friends with kids! We were just talking the other day about starting a bowling league, going to Napa, a Derby party, and going to Vegas! I hope that all of these things actually come about because I would love to spend more time with these couples, their kiddos, and build our own “family” here in CA.

Another thing that has been great about our new friends is that they are all wonderful parents. I never have to worry about bringing my kids around them and worrying about what they are going to say to our kids or their kids being a bad influence. I hope they feel the same way about us because we do try to be good parents and raise good boys. I know Cash can be a bit sassy sometimes but we’re working on it. 🙂

We also have some pretty awesome friends without kids (besides Lauren and Chris). Emily, James, Will, and CeCe are always a blast to be around and don’t mind that the kids have to tag along sometimes. Emily and James even got Tate to take his first steps at our last Tahoe trip. 

The moral of this post is that we are building up our tribe and I feel incredibly lucky to have them in my life and in our boys’ lives. ❤️❤️

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Today I went into Best Buy to purchase this adorable little Lenovolaptop that I am currently writing this blog post on. As I am making my way from the entrance all the way to the back of the store with a twenty-month old leading the way and spilling her juice as she did it, I knew it was going to be a tad longer than I had hoped for.

I made my way back and was immediately approached by an employee who was so beyond helpful, so if you are reading this Tim from Best Buy, thank you! The laptop that I wanted was out of stock even though it said online it was ready for pick up (just my luck) but I browsed the best I could with V playing the pick me up put me down game. I only need this laptop for my blog as my old…

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