Leave our President Alone…

Leave our President alone people. There’s absolutely no evidence out there that Trump colluded with the Russians except for the Manafort thing, and the Flynn thing, and the Roger Stone thing, and the Cohen thing, and the Kushner thing, and the Carter Page thing, and the Jeff Sessions things, and the Wilbur Ross thing, and the JD Gordon thing, and the Erik Prince thing, and the James Comey firing thing, and the Russian hacking/Wikileaks thing, and the bro-love between TrumPutin thing, and the Russian propaganda machine favoring Trump thing, and the DJT “I have zero ties to Russia!” thing, and the Eric Trump “we get most of our financing from Russian banks thing”, and the Donald Trump Jr. “Our portfolio is made up of a disproportionate amount of Russian money” thing, and the DJT “I sold a $60 million mansion to a Russian oligarch known for money laundering for $120 million that he never once lived in ” thing, and the Trump business ties with Putin’s favorite sports athlete Fedor Emelianenko thing, and the Trump International Corporation’s mysterious private server connection to Alfa Bank, Russia’s largest commercial bank thing, and the Special Prosecutor being named thing, and the British Mi-6 spy dossier on Trump thing and the I won’t release my tax returns thing, and the Ivanka Trump’s vacationing with Putin’s girlfriend thing, and the 2013 Miss Universe Pageant in Moscow thing, and the Trump companies business ties to Felix Sater, a criminal felon indicted for stock fraud scheme with the Russian mafia thing, and the FL Group Icelandic hedge fund with massive ties to Putin being heavily invested in Trump Soho thing, and the Rex Tillerson/Exxon ties to Russia thing, and the Russian ambassador at Trump Tower sneaking in and out thing, and the Trump tried to roll back Russian sanctions the minute he got elected thing.

Other than that, you libtards got nothing!

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Essential Feminism Songs

I found a great playlist on iTunes the other day so I wanted to share it with all of you for Feminist Friday!!!

And of course, it starts with Queen B! ❤

  • Run the World (Girls) – Beyonce
  • Respect – Aretha Franklin
  • Shake It Off – Taylor Swift
  • I Am Woman – Helen Reddy
  • Confident – Demi Lovato
  • Express Yourself – Madonna
  • The Greatest – Sia
  • Brave – Sara Bareilles
  • Just a Girl – No Doubt
  • These Boots Are Made for Walkin’ – Nancy Sinatra
  • Roar – Katy Perry
  • You Don’t Own Me – Lesley Gore
  • Rebel Girl – Bikini Kill
  • Can’t Hold Us Down – Christina Aguilera
  • Ladies First – Queen Latifah & Monie Love
  • Kill V. Maim – Grimes
  • The Pill – Loretta Lynn
  • Proud – Tegan and Sara
  • Sisters Are Doin’ It For Themselves – Eurythmics
  • Bitch – Meredith Brooks
  • Scars to Your Beautiful – ALeissa Cara
  • Don’t Make Me Over – Dionne Warwick
  • Not a Pretty Girl – Ani DiFranco
  • Don’t Touch My Hair – Solange
  • I Will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
  • Who Says – Selena Gomez & The Scene
  • Work It – Missy Elliott
  • I’m Every Woman – Chaka Khan
  • The One’s for the Girls – Martina McBride
  • Good as Hell – Lizzo
  • Girls Just Want to Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper
  • Oh Bondage Up Yours! – X-Ray Spex
  • Til It Happens to You – Lady Gaga
  • Wannabe – Spice Girls
  • Independent Women, Pt 1 -Destiney’s Child
  • Brass In Pocket – Pretenders
  • Cornflake Girl – Tori Amos
  • Fight Song – Rachel Platten
  • Man! I Feel Like a Woman – Shania Twain
  • Sit Still, Look Pretty – Daya
  • Think (About It) – Ly nCollins
  • Flawless Remix – Beyonce (feat. Nicki Minaj)
  • Not Ready to Make Nice – Dixie Chicks
  • 50ft Queenie – PJ Harvey
  • Q.U.E.E.N. – Janelle Monae (feat Erykah Badu)
  • Girl in a Country Song – Maddie & Tae
  • Asking for It – Hole
  • Control – Janet Jackson
  • Hard out Here – Lily Allen
  • None of Your Business – Salt-N-Pepa
  • Kool Thing – Sonic Youth
  • Mama’s Broken Heart – Miranda Lambert
  • U.N.I.T.Y. – Queen Latifa
  • Miss Independent – Kelly Clarkson
  • Girl On Fire – Alicia Keys (feat Nicki Minaj)
  • #1 Must Have – Sleater Kinney
  • Bad Girls – M.I.A.
  • Doo Wop – Lauryn Hill
  • Feeling Good – Nina Simone
  • She Works Hard For the Money – Donna Summer
  • Free Your Mind – En Vogue
  • Follow Your Arrow – Kacey Musgraves
  • Good Woman Down – Mary J. Blige
  • No Scrubs – TLC
  • Man – Neko Case
  • Window Seat – Erykah Badu
  • I Choose – India.Arie
  • I’m a Survivor – Reba McEntire
  • Body of My Own – Charlie XCX
  • Stronger – Britney Spears
  • Hit Me With Your Best Shot – Pat Benatar
  • Army of Me – Bjork
  • Just Because I’m a Woman – Dolly Parton
  • I’m Coming Out – Diana Ross
  • Feeling Myself – Nicki Minaj (feat Beyonce)
  • Fucking Perfect – P!nk
  • Harper Valley P.T.A. – Jeannie C. Riley
  • 6’1″ – Liz Phair
  • Bold Soul Sister – Ike & Tina Turner
  • Guys Do It All the Time – Mindy McCready
  • That’s My Girl – Fifth Harmony
  • On My Own – Miley Cyrus
  • Phenomenal Woman – Laura Mvula
  • I Didn’t Know My Own Strength – Whitney Houston
  • Sisters, O Sisters – Yoko Ono
  • You Learn – Alanis Morissette
  • You Gotta Be – Des’ree
  • The Emperor’s New Clothes – Sinead O’Connor
  • People Have the Power  – Patti Smith
  • Nobody Ever Told You – Carrie Underwood
  • Typical Girls – The Slits
  • No More Tears (Enough is Enough) – Barbra Streisand
  • Nobody Knows What’s Going On (In My Mind But Me) – The Chiffons
  • Golden – Jill Scott
  • Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
  • Hollaback Girl – Gwen Stefani
  • Bossy – Kelis (feat Too $hort)
  • It’s a Post – Nellie McKay
  • Same Jones’ Blues – Bessie Smith & Irving Johns
  • Past, Present and Future – The Shangri-Las

Let’s talk about sex…ism

Let’s talk about sex..ism.

It’s alive and well in our culture today. It’s not just in the media and entertainment. It’s alive and well in our schools, workplaces, social situations, and religious institutions.

I am all about leveling the playing field for men and women. I find it commendable when famous people, high ranking people, or people of power stand up for equality and fight sexism. There are a handful of women in the entertainment business who actively fight for equal pay and to that I say, kudos. I applaud you for standing up for yourself and what you feel is fair. Damn, right you deserve equal pay. Damn, right you deserve to be treated equally to that of your male costars. And to the men that stand up for their women costars, kudos to you. I know it can be daunting but you are doing the right thing, no matter what others around you seem to think.

There are few articles that prompted this post and I want to briefly touch on each one.

An Upworthy article about Emma Stone has both positive aspects and negative ones. It touches on the fact that sexism is still alive in the entertainment business and Emma Stone has dealt with it first hand. However, the end of this article completely ruined the rest of it for me. It says “…for every woman who appears scantily clad on a magazine cover, a man must follow in a similar getup. See how much they like only seeing that reflection of themselves in the world. At least that would somewhat level the sexist playing field.”

Now how in the world does that idea help anything or anyone? I just find it so silly to think that putting half naked men on magazines would change the way the world thinks about women. That’s not equality to me.

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Mila Kunis is just great. I think she beautiful, funny, a great mother, and well rounded. Better yet, she stands up for herself and what she believes in. She wrote an open letter addressing the sexism in entertainment. I love how she ends this letter by saying “I will work in this town again, but I will not work with you.” Mila Kunis is a prime example that when women stand up for themselves they can accomplish great things! Good for you!!!
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And in this Upworthy article Emmy Rossum demands equal pay and basically demands retroactive equal pay. Hell yes! I’ve never seen the show Shameless but according to this article, she is a big part of the show, which is starting its 8th season. She’s won awards for her role and she has even directed a few episodes. She plays a major role in this television show; it sounds like they can’t afford to lose her. It seems like the producers would be idiots to not honor her request. If/when they do it will pave the way for other women to come forward and demand equal pay.
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There are so many more cases of famous and influential women standing up for what they believe in and I think it’s so incredible. We need more women willing to stand up for themselves. It will only make the world a better place when we are all equals. ❤

Control or Equality?

I wrote this out on Thursday and I meant to post it yesterday for Feminist Friday but I was busy with the boys, homework, and then the pool so I just honestly didn’t have time and didn’t think about it until it was too late. I’m sorry about that. I really do try and stay on top of the blog along with everything else going on, but this week it was just too much. Anyway, this week is just going to have to be Feminist Saturday. – And let’s be honest, any day is a good day for a little feminism. 🙂
I had to write a paper on the different stances that Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Sandra Day O’Connor took on abortion and how they both felt about Roe v. Wade. O’Connor was personally against abortion but thought women should have the ability to have them. She was okay with making it difficult for women though. The undue burden on the state was tricky with her. O’Connor defended outlandish restrictions that made a woman getting an abortion nearly impossible. She defended restrictions such as making women listen to speeches and then wait for their abortions or making young women get permission from their parents. These sorts of restrictions would drive women to risky abortions with unlicensed people, unsafe tools, and methods, as well as overseas.  Even though she tried to make outlandish restrictions she did not want it done away with completely. She did feel women should have some rights over their reproductive choices. This was very clear in Webster v. Reproductive Health Services. She had asked the Solicitor General if they passed this new piece of legislation if they would be able to force women to have abortions in the future. He, of course, denied that but who really knows since it was not passed.

Ginsburg, on the other hand, felt women must control their bodies (which that included their reproductive rights and their right to abortions) to achieve legal and social equality. Ginsburg felt abortion rights should have been included under the 14th amendment and not just a court case decision that could be overturned. She felt women needed that right to make them equal in every way and didn’t think there should be any restrictions imposed by the state except those to protect women’s health itself.

I am clearly more in line with Ginsburg’s ideas on the topic and while I was doing research for my paper I found an interesting article. The reason I found this article was because the idea of the fetus being thought of as a human being and religion was first brought before the court with the Webster v. Reproductive Health Services case. I was raised Catholic, went to a Luthern school, and then continued my faith in a born again Christian church as an adult, yet I never viewed abortion as a religious issues. I always viewed it as a woman’s issue that strictly involved women. Religion had no place in the discussion, in my mind.

It’s a hard conversation to have because most pro-life people have their opinions rooted in their religion. While on the other hand, most pro-choice people have the opinions rooted in equality. One issue with this is there is supposed to be a separation of church and state. That line is continuously being crossed when it comes to abortion in states all over the country. Politicians are constantly trying to push new laws through the system that inhibit women from getting abortions and taking control over their reproductive rights.

The issue is very black and white to me. It is either pro-choice and equality or pro-life and control. There really is no middle ground in my eyes.

 

Anyway, enough of my rambling on. Here is the article I found and liked so much:

“This past Friday, Tennessee Governor Bill Haslam signed the deceptively named “Tennessee Infants Protection Act,” a bill that does nothing for infants but prohibits physicians from performing abortions after the 20th week of pregnancy. Tennessee Republicans blocked all efforts from Democrats to include exceptions for incest, mental health, or even rape. (After all, if a woman is raped, GOP lawmakers say it must be God’s will.)

The “pro-life” movement has never been about “life,” it has, and always will, be about control. Control over a woman’s reproduction—taken from the individual and given to GOP legislators, like Republican Billy Long.  The entire movement has been a scam from its inception: it all began with a single disingenuous conference call to come up with ways to gin up support for segregationist Bible colleges. Up until that point, churches didn’t have any problem with it. Why should they? The Bible says nothing about it. Even though abortion was practiced way back in Jesus’ time, He never said one word about it.

Yet when the Tennessee law was debated, among the countless other patriarchal attacks on women, I hear the same tired argument over and over again. I hear it in other statehouses, including my own, whenever the GOP tries to regulate women’s pregnancies. Unfortunately, I always see Democrats trying to argue on their terms, and falling for the same trap. So let’s talk:

As many of you know, I live in a conservative paradise: no services, few jobs, and guns—lots of guns. The same rednecks who brag about mowing down a family of deer or discussing their fantasies of killing folks they don’t like are always the same ones getting on their soapbox about the sanctity of life when it comes to abortion. One of my neighbors went on and on about “killing babies”—right after he made a joke about what to name a dead Syrian toddler. (I won’t repeat it. I couldn’t even pretend to like him after that. )

A politician isn’t usually that blatantly crass. (Although the new Trump-era GOP politicians are really testing the waters.) But they all make the same argument that frames it very black and white: God makes the baby,  and the evil woman kills the baby. (After all, she is just an empty vessel.) The zygote, however, is no different to them than an infant. To them, terminating a pregnancy—even if the cells are smaller than a dot (.)—is exactly the same thing as strangling a newborn baby. It’s crazy, but that’s how they think. Arguing with any rightwing politician or supporter with this kind of framing is a losing proposition every time.

Why? Because with this kind of framing, they always are on the side of “saving the infant’s life,” and any argument to the contrary—rights, reproductive freedom—can always be framed that we want to end it. I don’t play that game at all, and neither should you. Stop arguing with them over the issue of abortion itself, but on whatever the offending legislation is. There is a BIG difference.

Whatever the offending legislation is, it will always be about making it more difficult to get an abortion. The problem I can always point out is that the legislation never achieves the primary objective of preventing a woman from getting an abortion in the first place. You see, wealthy women will go where it is legal. Women of lesser means will still make the cost-analysis that it will be cheaper in the long run even if they have to travel quite far. Poor women will do something drastic. You may make it more difficult, but you won’t stop abortion.

The entire irony of the pro-life movement is that even if they achieve their ultimate objective—overturning Roe v. Wade—abortion will still be available somewhere. Furthermore, like it or not, we are rapidly approaching an era where women won’t have to travel anywhere to have an abortion. It will soon be possible for a woman to ingest medication to stop her pregnancy in her own home. Trust me, when that happens, you can pass every stupid law you want, but it won’t stop.

No, if you really and truly believe that abortion is murder, and you really and truly want it to stop, there is only one way to do it. However, it entails the one thing that the religious right has never, ever been willing do to: make it easier for the woman to have the baby.

Fight outrageous daycare fees, and support programs that make daycare affordable. Ensure the child has healthcare, and at the very least, stop trying so damn hard to block food stamps for the baby!

Make it easier (and cheaper) for parents to adopt. Get women the help they need to support their baby—and abortion rates will drop dramatically, far more than any legislation ever could.

Is this really about stopping abortion? Then how about initiatives to give these women a hand in their desperate situation. This will not only solve the problem, it’s the “Christian” thing to do. Besides, if you force a woman to bear a child, shouldn’t you make sure you allow her some means to take care of the child? No?

Sure, at this point, we then argue about tax dollars going to provide for the most basic necessities for an infant to survive—but see what I did there? The high ground they claimed is gone. Wait, weren’t you just talking about the sanctity of life? I’m trying to save a born infant’s life and NOW you are telling me that if he/she dies it’s “not your damn problem”?? (Those were the exact words used, BTW.)

How “Christian” of you.

Of course, this has never been about stopping abortion. It’s the exact same reason the religious right opposes comprehensive sex education and access to contraception—two other ways to stop abortion.  This is all really about control–control of the woman.

If you want to argue for legislation to do that, I can’t stop you.

But I damn sure am not going to let you claim the moral high ground on it, either.”

First 100 Days

How has Trump hurt women you may ask? Well, I am here to inform you, and I’m not talking about grabbing women by the pussy or any of those sex scandals he was a part of. In the first 100 days of his presidency, he has not done much good for women, even if Ivanka Trump claims her father is “a tremendous champion of supporting families who believes in the potential of women.”

*Side note: the crowd she said that to booed her*

One of Trump’s first acts as president was to reinstate and broaden the global gag rule; its actual name is the Mexico City Policy. If you are unfamiliar with this policy the condensed version is that foreign NGOs must not “perform or actively promote abortion as a method of family planning” with non-U.S. funds as a condition for receiving U.S. global family planning assistance. Trump added in that if they do not comply they will not receive any other U.S. global healthcare assistance, including U.S. global HIV and maternal and child health assistance.

The global gag rule was first put into place by President Ronald Reagan and has been rescinded and reinstated several times since.

This does not directly affect women in the United States but as a feminist I believe we should be protecting all women. For these countries to lose the assistance simply because they educate their patients is absurd. There was a study done that found when the gag rule is in effect it declines the availability of contraceptive services, which means both fertility and abortion rates were higher during the gag rule years than during non-gag rule years.

He has repeatedly come after Planned Parenthood. The first plan to replace the Affordable Care Act would have blocked access to Planned Parenthood for millions of women who rely on Medicaid. It obviously did not go through, thank god! He also signed a resolution giving states permission to deny funding for Planned Parenthood and other organizations that provide abortion services. Per Planned Parenthood they “see roughly 2.5 million patients annually and in 2014-2015 alone performed more than 635,000 pap tests and breast exams and diagnosed more than 171,000 sexually transmitted infections.”

He has proposed cutting programs that help victims of domestic violence. One expert said “If Trump’s cuts are applied across the board, roughly 260,000 fewer victims of domestic violence will be able to access the help they need through shelters and supportive services.” The National Domestic Violence Hotline said that if the budget is cut by 10% more than 180,000 calls would go unanswered annual. That is insane! This is something that not only protect women but it protects children and men who suffer from domestic violence.

He went out of his way to defend an accused sexual harasser. I don’t think anyone was surprised when Trump defended Bill O’Reilly (before he was fired from Fox News). In Trump’s interview, he says; “I think he’s a person I know well – he is a good person. I think he shouldn’t have settled; personally, I think he shouldn’t have settled, because you should have taken it all the way. I don’t think Bill did anything wrong.” The kicker is that he defended O’Reilly in early April, which just happens to be Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

Saying I’m unimpressed is an understatement.

Here’s to hoping the next 100 days goes better.

 

What Feminism Means To Me

I know it’s late. I’m sorry, I had homework then got distracted at the gym by a friend’s birthday and drinks. (Of course. :)).

For Feminist Friday I thought I would write about what I believe is feminism. What feminism means to me and how I try to live my life and raise my boys. I will be completely honest; I am new to the feminist movement. I have always had strong opinions about women being equal to men, abortion, and many other women’s issues, but the more I learn, the more I love it. The more I learn about the movement, past, and present, the more I want to model my life in a certain manor. There are plenty of misconceptions about feminism that cause people to think it’s something bad, obnoxious, or radical. I want to try and help change these views and ideas.

To get technical; per Merriam-Webster feminism is the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes. And organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests.

Feminism is not about hating men. Everyone has heard that feminists hate men; everyone has heard of the feminazi. True, there are some women who say they are feminists and hate men, but I truly don’t believe they are feminist. I believe the whole idea behind feminism is making everyone equal; all genders, all races, all ages, all sexual preferences, etc. For me, feminism is the exact opposite of hating.

Feminism is about supporting men, as well. Gender equality means equality for men too. Feminism is good for men. It allows men to open up about their feelings and has options (like being a nurse or a stay at home dad) without backlash from society. It allows men to be physically strong or physically weak, aggressive or passive, be players or prudes, supports their family financially or has their partner support their family, enjoy violence or detest it, enjoy sports or dislike them, and the list goes on. It allows men to be who they truly are as well as support the women in their lives.

Feminism is not about the past. When I say this, I mean it’s not all about protesting the Miss USA pageant and burning bras, heels, porno videos, etc. Feminism has come a long way since the first wave of the feminist movement, the suffrage movement, and the 19th amendment. It has also come a long way since the second wave of feminism, Betty Friedan, and consciousness raising. Women in the 21st century have new battles to face and new people to include. It also has new heroes/heroines and new “villains.”

Feminism is all inclusive and intersectional. Feminism now needs to include women of all ages, races, religions, sexual orientations, socioeconomic backgrounds, and ethnicities. We, as feminists, cannot exclude someone of a different race or sexual preference and think we are doing good for the world and for women. By including all these different women and men, we can only become more educated, sympathetic, caring, and empowered. Nothing good can come out of excluding a certain group of people.

Feminism is not about belittling women for their choices. This one covers so many different aspects of life. For me personally, it isn’t about putting down stay at home mothers or working mothers. Everyone has their own reasons for working or not working. Everyone’s family needs different things. And more than that, every woman needs different things. Feminism is about accepting and lifting up every woman, regardless of their choices or needs. Whether that be to shave or not to shave, to be sexually attracted to men or women, to wear make-up or not. Every single woman has different lifestyles, wants, needs, desires, etc. and as a feminist, I feel that we need to openly accept them all!

Feminism is not about slut shaming. Women are sexual beings as well. Why is it okay for men to be sexual beings but not women? Because they are supposed to be pure and virginal? That’s such a load of shit. Women should be able to do what they please, dress how they please, and act as they please (as long as they aren’t putting anyone else in danger obviously). It’s so frustrating that men are praised for their sexual escapades but women are looked down on for the same thing.

Feminism isn’t about makeup or not shaving. People have these ideas that feminism is about not shaving, not wearing make-up, or being lesbian and that simply isn’t the case. I love wearing make-up and false eyelashes. I love wearing dresses and heels as well as rockin’ my leggings and muscle tees. I also love my husband, but I love and accept any woman who is the complete opposite of me, detests make-up, doesn’t shave, and is lesbian, or anywhere in between.

At the end of the day feminism, to me, must be all inclusive or it isn’t truly feminism. It’s hate with the excuse of feminism.

 

Feminism is for everyone!

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Did you join the march on Washington?

Usually my Feminist Friday posts are depressing, anger filled, and very opinionated. Today however it’s pleasant and encouraging. 🙂

Did you Join the march on Washington? If so, pat yourself on the back, give yourself a high five, treat yourself to a shot, or whatever it is you do to celebrate. If you haven’t seen the news yet the Woman’s March won a “Freedom of Expression Courage” award!

Millions of people marched across the country, and the world, making it the biggest single-day demonstration in United States history! FUCK YES! Go us! Every man, woman, and child who participated in that march should feel proud of what we accomplished.

PEN America (a non-profit organization that promotes literature and human rights defends free expression, supports persecuted writers, and promotes literary culture) announced they are presenting the Women’s March (its organizers and participants) with the 2017 PEN/Toni and James C. Goodale Freedom of Expression COurage Award.

I did a little research and this award “was established in 2015 to honor exceptional acts of courage in the exercise of freedom of expression.” (PEN.org) Last year the award went to Dr. Mona Hanna-Attisha and Lee-Anne Walters who were two very important women in exposing the lead poisoning of Flint’s water supply. In 2015 the award went to Charlie Hebdo. After their office was attacked and 12 people lost their lives the surviving staff vowed to continue their work. Their next edition had the mantra “All is Forgiven” and donated all the proceeds to the victims’ families.

That’s pretty freaking awesome if you ask me! For a march to be held in the same category as the awe inspiring men and women who have previously won this award gives me goose bumps. It gives me hope that even though we may have to suffer with a sexist pig as our president we can and will continue to promote love and equality. ❤