It’s time to come clean. I am struggling with patience when it comes to my two boys.
If you aren’t regular readers of this blog, I have an almost 5-year-old and an almost 2 1/2-year-old and they drive me absolutely insane! I go to school full time and get 4 hours of daycare through our gym membership so I’m basically a working mom. It’s not like I am at home with them 24 hours a day 7 days a week like a lot of stay at home moms. To those moms, I applaud you. You have such a hard job and you are killing it, mama!
Anyway, since I am struggling so much lately I decided to look up some tips online and start implementing them to see if anything helped. I wanted to share what I found and what I think.
- Put yourself in your child’s shoes.
This is great advice but hard to practice while you’re in the moment, at least for me. I am fully aware that my children aren’t fully developed in terms of maturity, behavior, and social graces. And because of my education, I know their brains aren’t fully developed until their twenties; however, that doesn’t make it any easier when they are ignoring me, not listening, or taking as long as possible to do a simple task.
- Help your child understand his/her behavior affects other people.
I like this one. I think to raise your kids into competent, intelligent, honest, and loving adults they have to understand that their actions affect those around them.
- Examine your reactions.
This is the best one I found, to be honest. Finding out what my trigger was and why I reacted the way I did has made a difference in the way I react and interact with my kids. A lot of times I came into the situation with little to no patience because I was preoccupied with school and deadlines which left only a small part of me to be open to my children. Once I started coming home or into the situation fully engaged I was able to recognize my trigger, redirect myself, and feel more at peace with our relationship.
- Set a good example.
This is one of the best pieces of advice you can give anyone at any age. Set a good example and watch others follow your lead. It may take some time but they will eventually see the fruits of your labor or how others treat you and change their behavior as well.
Do you have any advice for me? What are your current struggles with motherhood? Comment or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.