What to do if she tells you she’s been assaulted

She is your friend, mother, wife, sister, girlfriend, fiance, co-worker, employee, student, boss, etc. Whoever she is there are a few things you need to do to help her through this extremely difficult and sensitive time.

Please note if a man comes to you with this same issue treat it the same. Statistically, women are more likely to be assaulted/harassed/raped, which is why I say she. I completely understand that men are sexually assaulted and raped as well.

  1. Make sure they are SAFE.
    1. Are they injured?
    2. Do they need a place to stay?
    3. Do they need medical attention?
  2. Believe them.
    1. Just believe them. DOn’t try and figure out who it is, if they’re telling the truth, etc. JUST BELIEVE THEM!
  3. Say “It’s not your fault.”
    1. Do not blame the survivor
    2. THey have probably already blamed themselves and heard comments about it being their fault.
    3. They can not hear “It’s not your fault” enough.
  4. Empower them.
    1. Let them make decisions.
    2. Their ability to make that decision was taken away when they were assaulted.
    3. You can make suggestions and choices but let them make decisions.

Much Love,
Ashley

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