We had an interesting morning in the Marsh house on Friday. Cash let me know randomly that his heart felt sad. I asked him why and he dropped a bomb on me that I honestly didn’t think we would have to deal with for at least a few more years.
Cash told me a girl at Kids World (the gym daycare) didn’t want to play with him because he was “brown.” I was shocked and taken back for a few seconds. His age group at KW is 2 1/2 – 5-year-olds; so where in the hell is a child under the age of 5 learning about white and brown? I know the answer to that, it’s just frustrating to think a parent would teach their children terrible views like that or simply talk about it and teach their kids through their own actions.
Anyway, I asked Cash who was “brown” and he proceeds to say obvious friends of ours like Papa Alo (who is Brazilian), Dave (who is Indian), Che Che (Alo’s son), and PJ (who is black). Then he added in my husband Tyson and our other son Tate (who are both light skinned compared to Cash) and Preston (our friend Billy and Tiff’s son who has blonde hair and blue eyes). He clearly has no idea what brown or white means when it comes to skin color.
I told him the right thing to do is to not worry what color of skin someone has and instead just play with all of our friends. He agreed with me and then told me Charlotte (our friend Annie and Dan’s adorable and sweet daughter) is white so she can’t play with him anymore. I asked him if Charlotte said that or the other girl. Cash said the other girl said it but Charlotte played with him anyway.
THANK FUCKING GOD!
A huge shout out to mama Annie and papa Dan for raising a strong girl who goes against the grain when she needs to. She’s going to be an incredible woman, just like her mama. ❤
It is heartbreaking to hear a child say he can only play with brown kids now because some ass hat is teaching their child racism. I hope I handled the situation correctly but I guess only time will tell.
Moral of the story; please teach your kids to love all skin colors and body types. There’s no need for hate in this world.