Friday Morning Struggle

Friday Morning Struggle

We had an interesting morning in the Marsh house on Friday. Cash let me know randomly that his heart felt sad. I asked him why and he dropped a bomb on me that I honestly didn’t think we would have to deal with for at least a few more years.

Cash told me a girl at Kids World (the gym daycare) didn’t want to play with him because he was “brown.” I was shocked and taken back for a few seconds. His age group at KW is 2 1/2 – 5-year-olds; so where in the hell is a child under the age of 5 learning about white and brown? I know the answer to that, it’s just frustrating to think a parent would teach their children terrible views like that or simply talk about it and teach their kids through their own actions. 

Anyway, I asked Cash who was “brown” and he proceeds to say obvious friends of ours like Papa Alo (who is Brazilian), Dave (who is Indian), Che Che (Alo’s son), and PJ (who is black). Then he added in my husband Tyson and our other son Tate (who are both light skinned compared to Cash) and Preston (our friend Billy and Tiff’s son who has blonde hair and blue eyes). He clearly has no idea what brown or white means when it comes to skin color.

I told him the right thing to do is to not worry what color of skin someone has and instead just play with all of our friends. He agreed with me and then told me Charlotte (our friend Annie and Dan’s adorable and sweet daughter) is white so she can’t play with him anymore. I asked him if Charlotte said that or the other girl. Cash said the other girl said it but Charlotte played with him anyway.


A huge shout out to mama Annie and papa Dan for raising a strong girl who goes against the grain when she needs to. She’s going to be an incredible woman, just like her mama. ❤

It is heartbreaking to hear a child say he can only play with brown kids now because some ass hat is teaching their child racism. I hope I handled the situation correctly but I guess only time will tell.

Moral of the story; please teach your kids to love all skin colors and body types. There’s no need for hate in this world.


Immunization Awareness Month

Immunization Awareness Month

August is Immunization Awareness Month. I know the vaccine topic is a touchy one that causes people to argue and I don’t want that. I am more than happy to have an open conversation and hear your thoughts and opinions on the matter, but if you are going to be disrespectful to me or any other commenters I will delete your comments. It’s not necessary. You can and should be respectful adults who can disagree without belittling each other.

I know that it’s not quite August yet, but I am having to submit vaccination records for Cash to start school in a few weeks and I know there are a bunch of other parents who have done similar things or are in the process of doing similar things. Here in California, the law is as follows: “Personal belief exemptions will no longer be permitted beginning January 1, 2016. Personal belief exemptions submitted before January 1, 2016, are valid until the child enters kindergarten (including transitional kindergarten) or 7th grade. Valid medical exemptions from a licensed physician are not affected and will continue to be accepted.” (Contra Costa Health Services) If you are from another state I would like to hear what your state requires and does not require.

Anyway, I wrote a research paper on whether or not vaccinating children should be required by law. I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject! Here is my paper:

What exactly are vaccines? What do they do and how do they work? How important are they really? In the Encyclopedia Britannica, the definition of a vaccine is “a suspension of weakened, killed or fragmented microorganisms or toxins or of antibodies or lymphocytes that are administered primarily to prevent disease.” The first vaccine was introduced by a British physician, Edward Jenner, in 1796 to protect people from smallpox. Prior to this, Asian physicians were giving children dried crusts off the sores of people suffering from smallpox. The problem with this method was, some of the children would develop the disease and some would develop immunity. In 1881 Louis Pasteur could immunize sheep against anthrax and four years later he had a vaccine for rabies. Since then there has been a worldwide want and need for vaccines against deadly diseases. However, whether to vaccinate our children has become a hot button issue. There are myths, fears, facts, and statistics surrounding the issue; and all are fueled by social media. Laws requiring immunization create a safer environment for everyone, due to herd immunity, the potential risks of immunizations are minimal, and the economic impact of non-immunization is significant.

In the United States, a lot of diseases were very common up until the middle of last century and killed thousands of people every year. Almost everyone in the U.S. got measles and hundreds died each year, however now “most doctors have never seen a case of measles.” (CDC) Before the diphtheria vaccine was created in 1921, more than 15,000 people died in the U.S. Now that there is a vaccine only one case has been reported to CDC since 2004. (CDC) There many diseases that can be avoided via vaccination now. However, if people do not vaccinate their children or themselves they can start spreading these diseases again to others who are not vaccinated. If one or two people contract a disease and live in a community with low vaccination rates there will be an outbreak. Therefore, we need herd immunity.

Per the CDC website herd immunity or community immunity, is when a large portion of a population is immune to an infection or disease, either through vaccination or prior illness, which makes the spread of the disease highly unlikely. Through herd immunity individuals who are not vaccinated, like newborns or those with chronic illnesses, are given protection “because the disease has little opportunity to spread within the community.” (CDC) A great example of herd immunity happened in Japan in the 1970’s. There were 393 cases of whooping cough in 1974 with 80% of the country’s children being vaccinated and no related deaths. Then in 1979 the number of children getting vaccinated dropped to 10%, 13,000 cases were reported, and 41 people died. After that year vaccination numbers went up and the disease numbers dropped again. (Britannica Academic) These vaccines not only protect us and our children but they also protect people who may not be able to get vaccinated due to medical reasons or might be susceptible for other reasons. Ask yourself, what would happen if we stopped getting vaccinations? This situation in Japan shows us we could very well find ourselves fighting epidemics that we had previously thought were defeated.

There are plenty of arguments that vaccines are not safe, however, most of these arguments are founded on myths and false statements or ideas. There is a myth that vaccines do not work, but there are so many scientific facts and examples which prove they do work. Not only do they work, they work very well. A prime example of vaccines working is smallpox. Because of the smallpox vaccine, it has been eradicated from the earth. Another myth people hear is that infants are too young to get vaccinated, yet children who get these vaccines are being protected from diseases like pertussis and Hib meningitis. There are roughly 8,000 cases of pertussis every year, resulting in five to ten deaths each year in the United States and if infants stopped getting vaccinated those numbers would skyrocket. (CDC) “Vaccines given in the first two years of life are literally a raindrop in the ocean of what infants’ immune systems successfully encounter in their environment every day.” (Should Vaccines Be Mandatory) Probably the biggest myth that is causing parents to fight vaccinations is the myth that vaccines cause autism. This myth has been projected and exaggerated by the media. There have been two studies that claim the vaccine for measles-mumps-rubella (MMR) causes autism. Both of those studies were done by Dr. Wakefield and his coworkers, yet they are very flawed. There have been four different studies, by four different groups of people, debunking this myth. (Vaccines)

Vaccines contain antigens (“a toxin or other foreign substance that induces an immune response in the body, especially the production of antibodies” (CDC)) and small amounts of other ingredients. These other ingredients are another reason why parents are not wanting to vaccinate. Yet, CDC states there is such a small amount of these toxins that they are not harmful to adults or children. Vaccines are as safe as they can possibly be, according to CDC. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) monitors the vaccines given in the United States by studying the vaccine itself as well as the sites where the vaccines are made. The FDA also monitors the side effects of each vaccine. If they feel there is a common link between a certain vaccine and side effect they weigh the benefits and the risks to decide if there needs to be a change in the vaccine itself, the schedule, or the amount of the vaccine given at a particular time. (CDC)

Vaccines can cause side effects, like anything foreign we put into our bodies, however, they are usually very mild. There may be redness and swelling at the injection site, a slight fever, as well as more serious side effects such as “vomiting, high fever, seizure, brain damage, or death.” (Britannica Academic) However, these occur in less than one in a million people. It is extremely rare for anyone to have severe allergic reactions to vaccines, but doctors are trained to deal with those situations should they occur. Even though you or your child may have one of the mild side effects after getting a vaccination, it is much better than the alternative. If we stop getting vaccinated, diseases we once thought eliminated will spread across our country like wildfire. A prime example of what happens when we don’t vaccinate our children happened in the United States in the late 1980s and early 1990s. “Immunization rates against measles dropped” (Should Vaccinations be Mandatory) causing 11,000 hospitalizations and more than a hundred deaths. Now that the rates of vaccinated children have increased again and the number of cases has dropped to about a hundred per year with no deaths in the United States. (Should Vaccinations be Mandatory) The risks of not getting vaccinated clearly outweigh the minor risks of getting vaccinated.

Finally, the economic impact of non-immunization deserves considerable consideration when weighing whether to require immunization. Most anyone with health insurance has their children’s vaccinations completely covered, they are considered preventative care and they do not pay anything out of pocket. If you do not have insurance and do have to pay out of pocket the average vaccine costs $29.07 at a private clinic and $8.15 at a public clinic. (CDC) However, if you choose not to vaccinate your children and they get sick, you must pay your co-pay and possibly more doctors bills. On top of doctors’ bills, you may have to take time off work; causing you to lose out on wages for that day(s). CDC did a study on the “direct costs for outbreak control, and outpatient and inpatient visits…. average duration of hospital stay, and hospitalization costs”. They did the study on diphtheria, tetanus, pertussis, Hib, poliomyelitis, measles, mumps, rubella, congenital rubella syndrome, hepatitis B, varicella, pneumococcal diseases, and rotavirus. Looking at just diphtheria there is a 100% chance of hospitalization with an average of 6.1 days spent in the hospital. The average cost per hospital visit is $16,982. On top of that hospital stay there is outpatient visits that cost on average $100 per visit. Looking at pertussis (whooping cough) there is a 0.65-30% chance of hospitalization with 5.5-15 days spent in the hospital. The average hospital stay would cost between $10,765-22,410. Then, of course, you would have your outpatient visits ranging from $100-173 per visit. (CDC) These numbers are not including the time you must take off work, or the medication you might have to buy.

The medical journal Bulletin of the World Health Organization did a study focusing on the cost-effectiveness of vaccinating in five emerging economies. They studied Brazil, the Russian Federation, India, China, and South Africa (BRICS). The countries have a wide range of economic standing, ranging from “lower-middle-income (India), upper-middle-income (Brazil, China, and South Africa), and high-income (Russian Federation).” Their study includes “the two most populous countries in the world – China and India.” All together BRICS have a total population of roughly 239 million children under the age of five. Through their study, they have found that introducing vaccines to the children in these countries has greatly benefited the economies. They proved that it is beneficial to the economy and the communities to vaccinate children overpaying for high medical treatment and having lost wages from taking care of the children when they become ill.

With myths being debunked, the potential cost of not vaccinating added up, the minor risks involved, and the fact that we are protecting those who are unable to get vaccinated, it is a clear choice as to what we should do in our communities. Requiring children get vaccinated has a positive impact on so many different aspects of our lives. With laws requiring vaccination, we are protecting those who can’t get vaccinated due to chronic illness or allergies and newborns. And with laws requiring vaccination, we are saving money. There has been enough research to show vaccines are safe and should be mandatory.


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You Know You’re From Utah When…

You Know You’re From Utah When…

I got inspired by a friend of mine to write a blog post all about Utah. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the down right hilarious sides of it. If you aren’t from Utah enjoy reading about the wonderful and crazy things that go on there. And if you are from Utah, I hope you find this as fun as I did!

Thank you to all my Utah friends that helped me write this! You’re all amazing.


  • Everything is closed on Sunday.
  • And if you’ve moved away you vow to never live in Utah again.
  • You plan your alcohol runs around holidays and Sundays. And you make damn sure you get there before the liquor store closes.
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  • You know what a molly-Mormon is.
  • You know what “real” mountains look like.
  • You get lost without said mountains as your guide.
  • People assume you’re Mormon.
  • You hear the words sluff, biff, fetch, flip, eff, fetcher, and heck and know exactly what they mean.
  • You know the “Holy War” isn’t about the crusades.
  • Everyone with a camera is a “photographer”
  • You are an avid Jazz fan.
  • You are pissed as hell at Gordon Hayward.
  • The smell of dog food means there’s a west wind. (For all my Ogden friends)
  • You know what fry sauce is. And you automatically ask for mayonnaise with your ketchup in every other state.
  • You know what the “slots” are in Utah.
  • When you are under 20 at least 5 of your closest friends are married.
  • You gladly drink 3.2 beer because you don’t know any better.
  • You have learned all the weird liquor laws.
  • Funeral potatoes are your favorite!
  • Modest is hottest!
  • You’ve gone on a date to see the lights at Temple Square.
  • Coffee isn’t the highest sold drink at Starbucks.
  • Day dates before dances are as big or bigger than the actual dance.
  • You love the DI! Either because you get some awesome stuff there or you can easily unload a ton of shit there. And you actually know what the DI is.
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  • Driving in the snow is no big deal.
  • You have driven to WY to get illegal fireworks and Four Loko.
  • You can experience all 4 seasons in just a few days and in the middle of summer.
  • You celebrate holidays like Halloween and the 4th of July on Saturday if they land on Sunday.
  • You either have an interesting way of swearing or you know what they mean when they say those interesting words.
  • You aren’t sure if there are more Mormon churches or Mavericks.
  • Separation of church and state… What is that?
  • You are either in the Mormon club or you are an outcast.
  • When you go out of town and they learn you are from Utah the first question you get is either if you are Mormon and/or how many moms you have.
  • You know your state has an extremely high opioid epidemic in the country. Along with the highest national rate of teen suicide and a high national rate for anti depressants.
  • You’ve been cliff jumping.
  • You know the Great Salt Lake is really just a stinky gross vast expanse of land filled with a shit ton of salt and very little water.
  • You know all about green jello.
  • You NEVER got a snow day. I mean literally never in your life have you had a snow day!
  • You are used to the endless road construction.
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  • You know how to correctly pronounce Weber and Webber.
  • You know so many different versions of swear words it’s a bit embarrassing.
  • You know what a “Utah Scone” is and you absolutely love them and miss them when you move.
  • You wear a t-shirt under a spaghetti strap/dress
  • You measure travel in TIME, not DISTANCE…
  • You try and be extra creative when naming your children. Add in a few useless letters, it’s fine!
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  • You do not pronounce your T’s when you say words like mountain, hunting, Layton, etc. but you vehemently deny having a “Utah accent.” Think “mou’ns”  and “Lay’un.”
  • Tooele is pronounced “Too-will-a”, Hooper is pronounced “Hupper”, Hurricane is pronounced “Hur-i-can” (with a short “i”). Egg is pronounced “aigg”, Mirror is pronounced “Mir.” Drawer is pronounced “Drar.” Milk is pronounced “Melk.”
  • You have your wedding dress or prom dress altered to add sleeves.
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  • If you have tattoos or any form of body modification you know you will be judged and get dirty looks.
  • When you move to a new area and neighbors find out you don’t go to church, better believe the missionaries will show up.
  • You know that when you get to the airport or fly home there will most definitely be a large group of people with balloons and signs welcoming home a missionary, without fail.
  • You have so many friends who are part of pyramid schemes like It Works, Avon, Doterra, Perfectly Posh, Scentsy, etc. and you secretly hate them all.
  • “Your poop hole is considered a loop hole” rule to stay a virgin.
  • The 24th of July is a bigger event than the 4th of July.
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  • You know what a Mormon assault vehicle is.
  • Are my friends and I the only ones that think some of the original settlers’ descendants all look alike (in breeders).
  • You know what “Jesus Jammies” are.
  • You have had the Utah poof or you dated a Utah poof girl.
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Tips for a busy mom on how to master fast, easy everyday makeup routine

Tips for a busy mom on how to master fast, easy everyday makeup routine

Hello, everyone! This guest post is for all of you busy moms that want a few tips and tricks to look and feel good with the little time you have in the morning. I’m really excited about this guest post for a few reasons. The first is because I am always in need of more tips and tricks to make my morning routine easier with my little boys running around. The second reason I’m so excited about this post is because of Daniel Lewis, the author. He discovered my blog on Twitter, followed my posts, and reached out to me to guest post. Which I think is pretty awesome!

He sent me a few of his other articles and I loved all of them! Here are his social media accounts if you are interested in reaching out or reading more of his articles!!!

Tips for a busy mom on how to master fast, easy everyday makeup routine

Who said you cannot be a great mom and a sexy woman all at the same time? There are women who are doing it, so why not you? Wearing makeup does not have to be tough wheth4er you have three children of just one newborn who doesn’t seem to sleep a whole hour. There are easy ways to help you remember your everyday makeup and allow you to get ready quickly and flawlessly. All you have to do is to remember to play around with your best features.


There is something sexy, homely and stunning about rosy cheeks. For a sleep deprived mom, rosy cheeks can change your face from tired and overworked to healthy and happy. If you feel like the whole motherhood thing is dragging you down by the hair, you don’t have to let everyone know. There are plenty of celebrity moms who still manage to smile even through the sleepless nights, the unending laundry and the painful backaches. Your bundle of joy is worth all you are doing for them, but they also need a good-looking mother to complement their tiny cute faces. So apply blush on your cheeks and cheekbones, your nose, forehead, and chin. It will add a healthy color to your face and make you look approachable and happy.

Tinted moisturizer

You already know how critical it is to moisturize your skin before you begin any applications. It keeps your skin healthy and prevents breakouts. What you mi0ght have missed is the new tinted moisturizer that perfectly hides any flaws in your skin pigmentation. If you do not have a clear skin tone, you have to have tinted moisturizer. Ensure that you apply it all the way to your chest to everything uniform. This two in one also saves you time because you will not have to use two separate products.

Choose your perfect three

Mascara is essential. It helps create that needed glow on your eyes making you look lively s use a thick wand to work the mascara into your lashes from the roots to the tips. You also need to choose a shade of lipstick that matches your skin tone, and that will make you look and feel great. Apply it on your lips paying close attention to your edges to prevent over application. Dab the excess on a tissue paper. Apply a second coat of lipstick. This will ensure that your lipstick lasts longer. These two in addition to your moisturizer will ensure you look beautiful throughout the day. You may also want to invest in some great waterproof mascara because you never know when that emotional moment will pop up.

Powder foundation

As a busy mom, you are no doubt looking for a way to get the best coverage in the shortest amount of time. Powder coverage is what you need. With liquid or cream foundations, you have to spend your time to make sure that it has blended perfectly with your skin tone. There is also the risk that they may get smudgy and greasy. Applied with a large fluffy brush, powder foundation allows you to do the color correcting quickly and without worry.

Have a pair of tweezers in your car

If you want to look great, you need your eyebrows to look the part. Messy, over grown eyebrows, can ruin everything. Eyebrows need to be regularly shaped for them to- look great. As a new mom, you may not have enough time to do it. However, with a pair of tweezers in your car, you can work on your eyebrows as your baby naps or while you are stuck in traffic. If you have a kid in school, you can work on your brows as you wait for them in the car.


Mineral foundation powder is necessary for a mom to look great but she also needs to take care of her hair. It is important that you learn simple hacks that will help make your hair look great. For instance, if you have bangs, it is time for you to find out how to braid them for a quick, effortless hairstyle change. You may not go to the salon for a while. For instance, you could braid the bangs to the right or to left and style them like the rest of the hair. You can also hold your hair in a ponytail and add a hair extension for more coverage.


Being busy does not mean you have to let yourself go. You can still look and feel sexy and be a great mother!

“Back To School” Time

“Back To School” Time

We have some exciting news in the Marsh household! I checked my email this morning and had an email from the school Cash will be attending next month. It was his Pre-K Class Supplies List!

I know this is such a nerdy mom move but I got so excited! I always loved going shopping for school supplies while I was in elementary and junior high and I got equally as excited just seeing Cash’s list of school supplies.

I am really looking forward to taking him to his first day of school and taking those cheesy pictures. Please tell me I’m not alone in this. Any other parents out there who are getting or got really excited to send your kids to school for the first time or for the twelfth time? 🙂

Anyway, here’s our shopping list (We also need to get him a backpack and new lunch box as well) –

Pre-K Class Supplies List

1 Coloring Book

1 Box of 24 Crayons

1 Watercolor paint set with brush

2 Jumbo glue sticks

2 Bottles of Elmer’s glue

1 Pack of colored cardstock

1 Two-inch, white, clear pocket binder

1 Pack of clear sheet protectors

1 Family size box of tissues

1 Box of Crayola washable markers

Leave our President Alone…

Leave our President Alone…

Leave our President alone people. There’s absolutely no evidence out there that Trump colluded with the Russians except for the Manafort thing, and the Flynn thing, and the Roger Stone thing, and the Cohen thing, and the Kushner thing, and the Carter Page thing, and the Jeff Sessions things, and the Wilbur Ross thing, and the JD Gordon thing, and the Erik Prince thing, and the James Comey firing thing, and the Russian hacking/Wikileaks thing, and the bro-love between TrumPutin thing, and the Russian propaganda machine favoring Trump thing, and the DJT “I have zero ties to Russia!” thing, and the Eric Trump “we get most of our financing from Russian banks thing”, and the Donald Trump Jr. “Our portfolio is made up of a disproportionate amount of Russian money” thing, and the DJT “I sold a $60 million mansion to a Russian oligarch known for money laundering for $120 million that he never once lived in ” thing, and the Trump business ties with Putin’s favorite sports athlete Fedor Emelianenko thing, and the Trump International Corporation’s mysterious private server connection to Alfa Bank, Russia’s largest commercial bank thing, and the Special Prosecutor being named thing, and the British Mi-6 spy dossier on Trump thing and the I won’t release my tax returns thing, and the Ivanka Trump’s vacationing with Putin’s girlfriend thing, and the 2013 Miss Universe Pageant in Moscow thing, and the Trump companies business ties to Felix Sater, a criminal felon indicted for stock fraud scheme with the Russian mafia thing, and the FL Group Icelandic hedge fund with massive ties to Putin being heavily invested in Trump Soho thing, and the Rex Tillerson/Exxon ties to Russia thing, and the Russian ambassador at Trump Tower sneaking in and out thing, and the Trump tried to roll back Russian sanctions the minute he got elected thing.

Other than that, you libtards got nothing!




As many of you know I am in school and one of my classes this semester is “Psychology of Modern Life.” I read an article by Arnold Lazarus and Allen Fay titles Unhappiness Is Self-Created and it made me think of my dad and how often he tried to teach me this very lesson. Once again, you were right, dad. ❤

The gist of this article focuses around the old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” The way Lazarus and Fay explain it is very simple. The way Lazarus and Fay explain it is very simple. As children, we are taught this saying about sticks and stones but we don’t take is seriously as adults. When something upsets us we say “His remark upset me!” “It made me unhappy when he left.” “He made me angry.” We are putting the blame on someone else when in reality we should be saying “I hurt myself over his remark.” “I made myself upset when he left.” and “I allowed myself to get angry when he acted in such a way.” As long as we incorrectly blame outside sources for our unhappiness we will never be able to do anything about them.

The first step to remedying this habit is to ask “How exactly am I upsetting myself?” If the answer to that question contains a lot of negative self-statements, challenge each one of them. You will hit a point where you realize the control resides in your head and not in external forces.

The second way to help change your behavior is to talk to your friends, family, and coworkers about the relationship between external events and people’s reactions to those events. Teaching/talking is a great way to learn something yourself and put it into action.

And last but not least, whenever you catch yourself falsely attributing your own feelings to external events, write it down. Keep a record of it in a notebook or in your phone; somewhere easily accessible. And make the notation as soon as possible so you don’t forget it! Then the following day, give yourself a few minutes to reflect on the times you wrote down the previous day. Correct the faulty reasoning and move on.

Mind you there are always exceptions to this rule. For example; if your sister, mother, brother, daughter, friend, etc. were to be raped or intentionally hurt you should be upset and stand up for those injustices. It’s how you stand up for the victim that can cause you problems, but that is another topic entirely.