I’ve been contemplating these terms of “girl’s girl” and “man’s man.” What do they really mean when you get down to it? Is it wrong to not be a “girl’s girl” or a “man’s man?” Should we want to fall into these categories? Will we have more friends if we do? Are they just another skewed stereotype that only fits a small percentage of people?
For this blog, I’m just going to focus on being a “girls girl” since it would be the stereotype or group I should/would fall into. Let me start this by stating I have always wanted to be a “girl’s girl.” I have always wanted to have a lot of girlfriends and be the type of girl other girls want to hang out with. I have never been that type of girl though and I never really knew why. I always only had one or two girlfriends and the rest were males. I have always had more fun with males than females. I have always connected better with males than females. I have always trusted males more than females.
For a while there I thought I was making some good progress with the friends I’ve made at the gym the past few months. They were all fellow moms, which is always helpful when looking for other female friends. But sometimes it just doesn’t click like I thought it would. However, I realize it will take time to build up those friendships. And it’s not always reciprocated, and if that’s the case, it’s okay.
What is wrong with me? Why can’t I just get into the girl talk? Why can’t I be a “girl’s girl?” Why can’t I have a ‘tribe’?
I decided to do a little internet digging into what makes you a “girl’s girl” and everything I found was very cliche and, honestly, obnoxious. All those stereotypical girl things I don’t like about having those stereotypical girlfriends were all the reasons there are “girl’s girls,” or signs of a “girl’s girl.”
Maybe I am just stuck being more of a “guy’s girl,” but maybe it’s not such a bad thing. Maybe that’s why my husband likes me? (Doubt it, but it’s worth a shot. ahaha) Maybe it’s what makes me so outgoing and fun? Maybe it’s what makes me approachable? Or maybe it’s preparing me for having teenage sons and grown sons of my own. Or maybe, just maybe, there is nothing wrong with not being a “girl’s girl” and those stereotypes suck anyway.
Yeah, I like that last option. 🙂
So, here’s to all my “guy’s girls:”
Don’t let anyone make you feel bad because you would rather be one of the guys.
Don’t let anyone criticize you for not having a traditional ‘tribe.’
Don’t let anyone say you are threatened by females because you aren’t. You just have different interests and that’s okay!
Girl, don’t ever change!
And last, but not least, fill your ‘tribe’ up with the best dudes you’ve got!