Anyone on facebook that has a handful of mom friends has most likely seen the post about children not being required to share their toys. The gist of the post is that this mother does not require her child to share, her child can tell other children “No.”
I have always been against this and make Cash share whenever we are with other people and we make him share with his brother. Tyson’s motto is “We share with everyone.” But I’m starting to think maybe we are the ones getting it wrong.
The reason I feel this way is because of an incident that happened at the pool earlier this afternoon. Cash had brought toys for him and Tate to play with and did a great job sharing with all the kids at the pool. 3 new kids showed up and it all went downhill. The older boy was maybe 6 or 7 and the two girls were roughly Cash’s age, maybe a little younger.
The older boy took all of Cash’s toys and wouldn’t let Cash play with them. Keep in mind Cash brought toys to the pool today to split between him and Tate. Cash kept asking if the older boy would share his own toys but the older boy kept responding with “But you play with these all the time” or “Why are you following me?” Cash kept coming up to me crying because the boy wouldn’t share and was being ‘naughty.’
I asked the boy twice to share with Cash and let him know that some of those toys were brand new and some of them were for his little brother. He never listened. So I got in the pool and took them away from this older boy.
Now you may think I was being a bitch but Cash literally had nothing to play with because Tate had 2 toys and this older boy had the rest. Mind you, his parents and grandma were sitting right there while all of this was happening but they were too busy chit chatting in Spanish to pay attention to what was going on.
This specific situation has made me want to rethink making Cash share his toys. I think there should be a happy medium. He should share with his brother and friends when he brings things to their house, but if we are going to the pool or the park and he packs toys for him and his brother he shouldn’t have to share if he doesn’t want to.
I like the analogy the post makes about eating sandwiches. She says “If I, an adult walked into a park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No! Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.”
I will say I am not a huge fan of some of her comments in this post though. She does say “The next time your snowflake runs to you, upset that another child isn’t sharing, please remember that we don’t live in a world where it’s conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so……”
I hope she is coming from a good place when she says this but I am technically one of those “snowflakes” and I don’t expect shit from anyone. I know I have to work for what I want. My husband works for what he wants. My kids will eventually have to work for what they want.
I better stop before I go off on some random tangent about “snowflakes” and politics.
Anyway, moral of the story is, I wish there was a happy medium for sharing and not sharing when it came to our children. Today was clearly a point when Cash shouldn’t have to share with this boy.
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