Part three of the Safely Ever After posts.
It works out quite perfectly that I’ve decided to highlight this month because I just read that April is Child Abuse Prevention Month. ❤
This post is about the ten play-it-safe rules for kids and grownups. As I read through these rules it made me want to really make sure my kids know these rules and know all the information involved in them. I started wondering how early you can start discussing these types of things with kids. When did you start talking to your kids about safety, their address, private areas, etc?
- I AM THE BOSS OF MY BODY!
- I know my NAME, ADDRESS, & PHONE NUMBER, and my parents’ names too. (Don’t forget: kids need to know their parents’ cell phone numbers!)
- Safe Grownups Don’t Ask Kids for Help!! (They go to other grownups if they need assistance).
- I never go ANYWHERE or take ANYTHING from someone I don’t know.
- I must “CHECK FIRST” with my safe-smarts grown-ups for permission: before I go anywhere, change my plans, or get into a car even if it’s with someone I know. If I can’t check first, then the answer is NO!
- Everybody’s bathing suit areas are PRIVATE.
- I don’t have to be POLITE if someone makes me feel scared or uncomfortable. It’s okay to say NO… even to a grownup, if I have to.
- I don’t keep SECRETS… especially if they make me feel scared or uneasy. (No adult should tell a child to keep a secret).
- If I ever get LOST in a public place, I can FREEZE & YELL or go to a Mom with Kids and ask for help.
- I will always pay attention to my Special Inner Voice, especially if I get an “uh-oh” feeling.
I liked how simple the rules were. How easy they were to understand and explain to a child. I also liked that some of these rules help prevent other issues from happening. For example, rule #6 helps teach my boys about consent. It helps teach them not only are their bodies private but so are everyone else’s unless they say it is okay.
Rule #5 helps with an issue I think all parents go through, I know mine did. It starts a habit with your children of letting you know where they are going all the time. I would sometimes forget to text or call my mom when I went to a different friend’s house and she would be so mad. I never understood why she was so upset; until I became a parent myself and realized the stress that would cause my mom.
Rule #8 is one of my favorite rules on this list. I am trying so hard to be open with my children and model my parenting style after my in-laws. From the things Tyson has told me, it sounds like his family was very open and set clear expectations. I want our family to be similar in the fact that we are open with our children, set clear expectations, and we don’t keep secrets from each other.