As a teenager, I was insecure and so body conscious. I did anything to make friends and keep friends; I just wanted people to like me. As a teenager I was afraid. I was afraid of rejection, failure, and loneliness. Now that I’m in my mid 20’s (UGH! As of next Saturday I will officially be in my late 20’s 😦 ) I can look back on my teenage years with some wisdom; not a lot, but some.
“I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.” – Thomas Edison
To my younger self;
Girl, stand tall; be confident in yourself. You are worthy of friends and love. You do not have to just go along with what your ‘friends’ want or what boys want just to get attention and ‘love’.
You are smart.
You are funny.
You will make true friends who love you for who you are.
Stop being so afraid. You will be rejected, but it’s okay. It’s the not the end of the world, but I know it seems that way. I know you want to lay in bed for days and cry but don’t.
Go out and enjoy your life. You will move past this hard time.
You will fail at times, but it makes your success much more enjoyable. These failings will give you the strength and determination to do better with the next adventure.
Never give up because of one failure. Everyone has missteps; everyone fails at some point in their life. You will learn from these mistakes and be a stronger woman for them.
You will be lonely. It’s inevitable; it’s a part of life. However, there will be a day when you enjoy your alone time. I know it seems like you could never imagine spending 4 hours alone, but trust me, you will really enjoy it. Practice going to the movies by yourself, go get dinner alone, go for a walk without your phone. Just spend some time discovering yourself.
At the end of the day, all of these fears are only holding you back from truly enjoying life. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. People will love the real you.
Take a chance.
Go and make friends outside of your ‘group’.
Ask him out to dinner, you never know he may just become your husband. 😉
And spend more time with your dad, he’s not scary at all. He just loves you and wants the best for you. Better yet, spend more time with all of your family. They love you and will really lift you up when you need it the most. Try and be patient with your more difficult family members, they do have the best intentions.
And through it, all remember, “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.” – Oprah