I kind of dislike Valentines Day. I’m not even single and I dislike it. I don’t dislike it because ‘it’s such a hallmark holiday’ blah blah blah bull shit. Maybe it’s just me, but Valentines Day is really stressful, which is why I don’t like it.
I am normally a person who loves giving gifts. I like giving surprise gifts, sending my loved one’s cards, and things like that. Tyson has kind of put a damper on that, though. I don’t think he did this intentionally, he just doesn’t find it as sweet as I do. It doesn’t give him the warm fuzzies like it does me.
Anyway, back to Valentines Day;
Valentines Day became stressful after our very first Valentines Day together. I had been on Pinterest for weeks trying to find something really amazing I could get for him or make him. I made chocolate covered strawberries and rice crispies with pink frosting but he wasn’t as big of a fan of those as Cash and I were. 🙂
Anyway, after weeks of Pinterest searching, I decided to give him a gift for each of his five senses; which I found here. I was so excited about the whole thing and really proud of myself for all the work I put into it. For sight, I gave him “52 things I love about you” card deck which he looked at once and has never looked again. And let me tell you it took me hours to do this and get it all right. My OCD would not let it be mediocre. For smell I let Cash draw him a picture with smelly markers; Tyson doesn’t wear cologne so I was totally lost for this sense. For touch, I bought him lingerie. I have bought a few items like this for Tyson and have not worn them since before I got pregnant with Tate. Hopefully, I will have the confidence to rock these again after March; more on that later. For taste, I got him a bunch of his favorite candy, but that’s so boring. For hearing, I bought him ear buds that were Chicago Bears themed and they were never taken out of the box. Maybe it was that he did not see all the hard work and sentimental value I had put into this gift or maybe it was that I didn’t know him well enough to get him gifts he would actually like.
On another occasion, I got him one of those “love books” that you fill out with ‘your story’. Something like this. He looked through parts of the book and then never touched it again.
I was really disappointed and hurt by his reaction to my gifts and cards. I was actually hurt for quite some time, but I have since gotten over it and realized he just doesn’t appreciate those types of things, and that’s totally okay! There’s nothing wrong with that.
I learned that Tyson likes (and wants) Georgia gear. If you ever want to get my husband a gift that is always a winner. I feel bad because he gets a lot of Georgia gear, but he wears it and doesn’t complain so I must be doing something right. Maybe I’m being selfish because I like all those sweet and sentimental things like scavenger hunts, surprise dates; things that just really take some thought and effort (but not always money, keep that in mind!). At the beginning of our relationship, I did these types of things for Tyson and expected him to like it. He just doesn’t care too much, and again, that’s totally okay.
But this is why Valentines is stressful and no longer fun for me. I want him to feel special, loved, and appreciated but I’m kind of at a loss for how to do that.
So I am going to do those sweet things for my kids now. I am going to make these little holidays fun for my kids because it makes me happy and I hope it makes them smile. I’ve bought some valentines cards that Cash can give to his friends and I’ve also bought some cards that you fill out yourself to send to our friends because I like that kind of shit. Yeah, I’m fuckin’ weird, I know. I bought Cash Candy Land and Chutes and Ladders along with a little treat and a new book. Tate got a music set with a drum, maracas, a tambourine, etc. and a new book. Tyson and I have dinner reservations at the Club and the boys will go to Kids World which works out quite nicely! Now I just need to figure out what to get for our nanny. 🙂
Anyway, I hope you all have a wonderful Valentines Day with your partner or with your single friends!!!