I want to move away from the political posts for a minute today. In all honesty, it’s depressing. Every time I get online or turn on the news something new strikes me so hard I just want to sit down and cry. So let’s try and be better people in our everyday lives instead of bitching and complaining, for a few minutes at least. 🙂
We all struggle with parenting, don’t lie. It’s so god damn hard sometimes! Are there times you just want to scream and run away from your child/children? Or is that just me? Please tell me it’s not just me.
Our main goal as parents is to raise intelligent and kind adults, right? Intelligent, kind, courteous, generous; whatever adjective you want to use, it’s our job as their parents. That’s a lot of responsibility for 1 or 2 people. It’s actually quite amazing how many parents get it right when there’s really no handbook on how to be the ‘best parent’.
Since there is no handbook on how to be a good parent most of us are just winging it and hoping we get it right; I am right there with you. But here are a few things I think would be beneficial for our children to hear. And because we love them and they deserve to hear these things.
- I love you. – Everyone needs to hear this, especially kids.
- It’s okay to make mistakes. – Because it is. No one is perfect and we shouldn’t expect our children to be.
- You make my life better. – Through all the screaming, fights, tears, tantrums, messes, and sleepless nights they do make our lives better and they should know that.
- It’s okay to cry. – If anyone tells my kids ‘big boys don’t cry’ or something of the sort I might punch them in the face. Um … fuck you; it’s okay to cry. Cry when you’re sad. Cry when something hurts. It’s okay!
- Thank you. – Kids learn from their parents. They learn how to behave by the way we behave. Tell your kids thank you, teach them respect and manors. Please, the rest of the world is begging you!
- I’ve missed you. – Because they like feeling loved and wanted, just like adults.
- Good night. – You’ve heard the saying ‘Never go to bed angry’ right? Well, I feel the same about our kids. Tell them good night, every night.
- You can do it. (Or in our house, it’s ‘You/Marsh’s can do hard things.’) – Give them the confidence to do hard things. Don’t let them give up, and make sure they know you have their back!
- Take your time. – This one is so hard for me. I like things done at my pace and that’s usually the quicker the better. However, my 3 1/2-year-old does not move at the same speed as me. I’ve learned that when I push him to go faster he gets frustrated, upset, and sometimes hurt. Let them go at their own pace, they are still learning.
- I understand you’re frustrated/disappointed and it’s okay to feel that way. – Don’t make your children feel like it’s not okay to be upset. Those are human emotions and we should be teaching them how to deal with them, not ignore them.