Cash has started hitting. I hate admitting this to anyone, let alone myself. I have no idea where this is coming from. It’s not like he’s frustrated with something and hits out of anger or frustration. He’s just hitting. 😦
On Friday or Saturday, I can’t remember, he was playing with Tyson (not play fighting either) and he just reared back and punched him in the face. Tyson picked him up and put him in his room for timeout right then. Tyson went in after a few minutes and talked to him, thinking that would solve the problem.
But on Monday Cash and I were playing ‘Star Wars’ (he has light sabers and a Darth Vader mask) and he punched me in the face while I was wearing the mask. We weren’t play fighting either. I sent him to his room and then went in and talked to him after a few minutes. I tried a different angle. I asked him if he liked when Beckham (our friend’s very young son hit him pretty hard, and unprovoked, the day before) hit him. He of course said no, so I asked if he thinks I like it when he hits me. He said no again and then told me I hurt his feelings. Ugh!
The following day Tate was in the highchair and Cash was just playing with him. Cash grabbed a stuffed animal and started hitting his brother in the head. This stuffed animal has big plastic eyes, which of course had to hit Tate in the head. Tate started crying and I sent Cash to his room, again. After a few minutes I went in to talk to him. I brought up the Beckham situation again and then told him he lost his game for the rest of the night and the next day. He also lost his privilege to getting a treat that night after eating all his dinner. Cash then told me I make his whole day so sad. Damn this kid knows how to hit all the feels. 😦
I thought taking away his game and his treat would do the trick but an hour later he was getting ready for bed and slapped Tyson’s hand. WHAT THE FUCK!?!?! Why? So he got a stern talking to and he lost my phone for the night and the next day.
I just don’t know what to do. Losing privileges hasn’t worked, getting time out hasn’t work, and being yelled at isn’t working. What am I doing wrong? Does he need to have longer timeouts (ours are roughly 3-5 minutes)? Does he need to lose privileges for longer periods of time?
I don’t want him to be a bully. I don’t want him to be ‘that kid.’ 😦
What do you guys do to deal with kids who are hitting?